You know, not everyone related by blood are family. These toxic people need to cut off with dead silence. Don’t give them rent free residence in your head … Get yourself a family, not related by blood. I have many friends that I’d consider family than my birth family. Also you must already know this by now, I’m writing for others and reaffirming myself - when in toxic company, never ever leave your kids alone. Never! Ever! And never allow anybody to discipline your child. U ask what the problem is and ask your child and deal with it privately. Teach your kids to come running to you anytime there’s a problem or uncomfortable situation. They should have to put up with anything just to be polite. Also, please see a counselor. Therapy helps.. sometimes it takes a few tries before you find the right therapist but it really helps get out of effects of toxic relationships.