Best Defence Against An Immature Mil

Here are some of the things

After me and hubby will fight she will flaunt her relationship with her husband in front of us.

If me and hubby argue she will tend to him like he needs breastfeeding. She’ll give him tea (none for me no milk left for me)

Make sure she gives me tea (in front of guests) in the maids cup to show she does all the work.

Constantly boast about how many things my brother in laws wife brought with her after marriage. Upto the point it’s Sara’s cupboard, Sara’s washing machine, Sara’s dishrack....these items are named after Sara. Sara’s dressing table, Sara’s bed. Sara doesn’t even live there anymore.

If I gift her something, straight away she’ll say she’ll give it to my sister in law.

Goes through my purse without permission. Comments on each piece of underwear. Sits outside the bedroom door to listen to what me and my hubby talk about/do/marital relations.

Talks to maid in another language gossiping about my mother and me. She thought I didn’t understand. But yeah I heard and understood everything.

Can’t tell husband because he never listens or understands and she treats him like dirt.

 

Same here once I had a really really bad fever and couldn’t even get out of bed. Hubby told father in law to cut a chicken for me for some soup. MIL took it and gave it to me saying here make soup out of it... I was like OMG...

I also hate how she massages Vicks on my husbands chest. He’s a fully grown adult...no boundaries at all. Everything is a game for her.

 

We live in the UK and she lives in India. We’re going india to see her for 3 weeks. Last time she made my life hell.

 

Haha thanks for the laughs. But she is irritating. If I give her some chat patta to listen to she’d probably be excited herself and ask me in the morning what was all that noise in the room ( she asked me this once...how rude and shameless). I was like ‘ohh nothing’ and she said ‘ohh but I heard some noise’. This time I’ve told my hubby if he wants any intimacy it will only be when we are in a hotel. Once my husband gave me a hickey and she kept saying ‘omg a mosquito has bitten u so bad’ so I just laughed. But a few days later she said ohh has a mosquito bitten u on the cheek or has my son been kissing u (and my husband turned his face like omg what is she saying). I’ll try the bit about when she treats my husband like crap. But regardless he’d get so defensive and stick up for her.

She makes me feel like she’s married to him. Like when we were leaving she hugged him chest to breast squeezing him and I had to walk out of the room.

This time I feel like keeping everything a secret so she has nothing to talk about. If she saw condoms she’d backbite about how unnatural I am (not her son but just me the DIL). And I thought this was 2019. But ladies please keep advising me.

The most I fear is if she says something bad about my 2 year old daughter or hits her. She constantly taunted me about dowry too when my husband wasnt home. And then when he did come home and spent time with me she used to cry. But after that life has been hell since we moved to the UK. He talks to her throughout the day and comes home in a bad mood and takes it out on me. We fought a lot and talked a lot about divorce. But after brief separation we realised we wanted to be together.