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Discussion in 'Parents & Siblings' started by GoneGirl, Dec 2, 2021.

  1. GoneGirl

    GoneGirl Gold IL'ite

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    Hi @Metamorphic, Thank you for the kind words. That is indeed a very helpful suggestion, I was surviving on minimal food for many weeks and realized that this was not helping me or the others around me. So am taking care of my health a bit better now.

    Thank you so much @Amica for taking the time, despite going through a difficult day time. Hope you are able to get through this phase.
     
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    No...in my case i could not get over the loss for few years.
    It does take a lot of time to come to reality. But life does go on...
    Initially we would discuss about the person within the family...which would create a sad atmosphere altogether at home. But each family member would console the other one . This is how life was the first few months...After few months, everyone gets busy with work/study...and also weeps when alone.
    As the years passes by, we slowly come to terms.
    So we start living with good memories spent with them. Look at the photos and share the happy moments with the family. Now we remember the loved one in every work we do. In tough times we feel they are behind us supporting and in happy times feel they are Happy seeing us achieve .
    Talking with people and sharing our emotions would definitely help in the initial few months...
     
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    So sorry for your loss @Anisu. This is a very insightful post, gives me hope, thanks for sharing this.
     
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    So sorry to hear about your loss. May his soul rest in peace. May God give you the strength. Take care Viji ma. hugs
     
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    Thks
     
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    May God give you strength to endure this.

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    I feel we never get over the loss; we just learn to live with that void and pain and hope that ONE Day we will meet again.

    Rest assured...you will come out of this phase!
     
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    My heartfelt condolences to you for your loss.
     
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    @GoneGirl , I happened to come across this analogy on Twitter, it seemed to make sense. Perhaps it could help you a little in handling the overwhelming sadness and pain. Take care
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    @GoneGirl First of all hugs to you. Time will definitely put things in place and you will learn to come to terms with the loss. Don't be too hard on yourself, grieve to your hearts content, people prefer to grieve in different ways.
    Cry out loud if that makes your heart feel light, recall memories even if it hurts and brings tears, it's ok.

    Special days of yours as well as the loved one you lost are the most difficult days initial few days, months and years. But still recall how much joy and fun you had in the past during those special days. It will help to heal. Like a few already suggested lean on family / friends and tell them how the loss is hurting. Take it out of your chest.

    One last recommendation that worked for me personally ... after taking some time to grieve try asking yourself how would your loved one like you to be? How would they love to see you? What would they like you to do? These will give you the energy to bring yourself together and slowly move on with life.

    @Amica @iyerviji ma ...Hugs, hugs, hugs!
     

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