How does one get over the loss of a loved one? Does one really ever ? It seems like the heartache gets worse by the day, not better. How do you reconcile with the fact -that you will not celebrate your loved one achieving their life’s goals, dreams and aspirations -that you will never hear their voice, have a loving chat or phone call every again -that you will never get to see their beautiful smile, hear a funny joke or listen to them crib about the mundane problems in life -that you will never have a tight hug or comforting pat on the shoulder -your kids will never get to know or love or miss this person the way they should -the last time you see them is not the way you want to remember them, but that is all the mind keeps playing back again -that their birthday is not a day for celebration anymore -that you don’t have another chance to tell them how much you love them -the fun times you had before brings back tears, not happiness - talk about your loved one in past tense, was not is, lived not lives, loved not loves.. -will never get another surprise gift that I can brag about.. my ——got it for me! Do you ever truly get over the loss of a loved one? Or does the mind become numb to the heartache? Do we ever go back to enjoying the small pleasures in life? Or does it make us feel guilty for having a moment of joy which the departed loved one can no longer have. It is so painful, but still you want keep seeing their pictures and the lovely moments that were shared. When does looking at a happy memory start to bring joy rather than more pain and tears? Losing a loved one puts things in perspective, makes us look at the big picture..the small inconveniences that made me sulk for days and made me upset, now seem like nothing. I would give anything to have a second chance, maybe to get a few more years in this world to live, cherish and enjoy their beautiful company. Alas, death doesn’t give second chances. To all the lucky folks out there, please give a tight hug and tell your loved ones how much you love and cherish them. It is all that matters in the end. Please do share your thoughts, experiences or suggestions that may help another person grieving the loss of a loved one. Thank you.