Being Trolled And Bullied And Personally Attacked On Social Networking

I enjoyed reading this apt feedback.

 

Sometimes in life, instead on why things happened and feeling bad about it..it’s better to take it as lessons, learn from it and move on.It will help heal better.Who is right or wrong is not the issue..each one is right from their perception and arguing is futile.Either we hit back hard and take back the hits,else be diplomatic and protect ourselves. was a hard hitting lesson I learnt which was past due.

financial independence is one thing but there are some women who work outside and still are at the mercy of their husbands and in-laws.Many do not even get a hold of their salary.They have internal problems which they cannot even vent out.At the same time,there are homemakers who are respected in their households and have full financial freedom over the monetary which is brought to the house.Their contribution is different.

Everyone’s situation,environment,Guts and mental strength of how they handle the problems is different.It is all about attitude.

I have to agree with @Laks09 with what she said.The friend has more than her Sahm dilemma.Her issues are different.Again,it is not like if one earns money..they should or can walk out of the marriage.Working is not for that.

True..when one earns money or had the education to find a job it does help.It is not that struggle ends when one is working.It comes in different forms.

At the same time..There are homemakers who walk out of a wedding,start their careers though small or big ,content with what they earn and live.Yes,people do and can find jobs when it is an absolute necessity and make ends meet tough or easy.The strength definitely comes.If you have,to you will.Many women lose their husbands unfortunately with no income but when “necessity “ arises they work it accordingly and manage.Some have family wealth for back up which is a different case.People manage and it is not like they will be stranded on streets or get into vices like movies shows.That idea and mental conditioning itself is wrong.

Also,The idea that women who work outside has life better is wrong.It is tough and even if your friend walks out of the marriage and is working,struggle won’t end.It will be the start to different kind of struggle!Especilaly being in our country,it is difficult being a single women.

Even I used to feel bad initially as though working woman has it better but no,I know many who do not have good health and who have stress and honestly my heart goes out to them.My best friend is in a high profile job but her struggles are hard.Outside,she may look successful for the society but she has her own problems and zero help.Many do it for financial troubles and varied reasons.They also want to be understood.So maybe your friend’s comment might have hit the wrong nerve and they just vented their frustration on her.

Unfortunately,anonymity is a social media benefit.Half the trolls won’t have the guts to speak what they wrote in real life.So,ask your friend not to take it personally.Trolling is a way to vent out people’s frustrations.If people cannot digest it,then one should refrain comments in social media.

They don’t know your friend and probably those women might be good people in real life.Everyone has their moments..so it’s best not to take it personal.Everyone’s mindset and how they understand things are different.

At the same time,are they right in saying mean things to your friend.Absolutely not but at this situation,it is best to empathize.We do not know when what ticks and my heart goes out to your friend and her personal struggles which many won’t know.She might have meant good in her perspective but honestly with so much stress going on in everyone’s lives,advice is the last thing people want unfortunately.I hope things work out for her better and hope she comes out of her personal struggles.

Tell your friend,those women who trolled her do not represent the entire women community.There are many who are mature and diplomatic.It was just not her day.Sometimes we are the statue and other times we are the bird.

No one is right or wrong here but we cannot change the world or how others will react.Let’s just learn a lesson from this and move on.

 

I have seen some of these women. It surprises me. Their brains are so used to abuse that they think it's normal.

 

what makes IL less social than FB. just avoid discussing further on a thread, if it does not go in a constructive way. couple of stuff i have seen here too

i have been called the b word couple of years back , just because the suggestion i suggested was not validating the person question.
there has another time, when my response was to OP , but another IL took it personally and was super emotional and lost control.

a male was posting questions on how handle kids when he was doubtful on his ex parenting skills. I noticed instead of replying couple of folks were mocking him in another thread , infact one of the moderator was too mocking him.

you cannot control what other can do or say. just smile and ignore.

there is no perfect manual how to live life.

 

When I realize how much I deserve and how much a
I was abused and stepped on, I cried (still do)

must learn to say, NO and stick to it

now I manage my full salary and share with those in need.