I was previously not very active on social media...but recently started doing so and participating in various groups and communities of my interest, for example some technical groups for technical and job related openings, groups for cleaning and home decor, cooking related groups, parenting and school and education related groups, health related , travel related groups etc.. It’s a long post, kindly bear with me... I am totally disillusioned and astonished by how people are being attacked in social networking sites like Facebook by random people.. 1. A discussion on educational and school related group in India..some parents remarked about how the school in which they enrolled their kid has unreasonably hiked their fees ( from 2 lakh per Annum to 3 lakh per annum or something ).. and they’re worried as the budget has exceeded their affordability etc...while some replied to the thread mentioning how to approach school management, few sympathetic replies from others going thru same thing..a few suggestions on better private schools with affordable fee...a few people commented sarcastically that if the parent can not afford private school fees why not put their kids in government school...it was so unnecessary. 2. A travel related group..someone , a lady, has to travel to another city to care for family member or relative who is undergoing medical treatment and out some query related to travel ..so many guys immediately messaged the lady on FB messenger..personal messages asking for friendship and hookup..few replied to thread sarcastically that it’s because of people travelling like her that Covid is spreading..why should a woman who need some of travel for genuine reason be trolled.. 3. I posted on few job related group asking for questions about job openings and recruitment process of companies of my interest in field of my interest..the post had to be approved by an admin..I noticed that my posts were never approved...but few nonsense queries by other people were approved and posted on group.. 4. A parenting and child health group - there was an article about safety issue of leaving kids alone with maids and babies if both parents going out for work..and it was a kind of caution to parents to supervise any helps so they don’t commit any wrong doings.. Few ladies commented on thread saying about how they wouldn’t leave kids alone with nannies..some commented that they left the job as they couldn’t trust baby with stranger...some commented that daycare is safer etc..that’s ok.. One lady, she is a dear friend of mine..she is brilliant in academics and had a promising career which she left as she was severely ill during her pregnancy and had to take medical treatments for years after delivery..her husband and in laws are ill treating her and she is trying for job again without much success due to pandemic..she replied to the thread saying that moms need to be home with their children during the initial 6 months to one year to BF the child so that the child can get mother s feed..either by taking extra leave or working from home..and that parents can arrange for childcare with elders or daycare keeping in mind the well being and safety of the child ..and that companies can grant extended leaves to work from home to ladies who are unable to resume job immediately after maternity leave..I don’t find anything wrong in wht she commented as she is very particular about babies getting BF during first one year... So many ladies commented and attacked her on the post saying that she’s is useless and can’t get job, some said she is a parasite and dependant on her husband for money hence she is advising mothers to stay at home to look after their babies..some ladies criticised her saying that she is jealous of ladies who work and have kids, and she is an unfit mom if she can’t manage both...some accused her of being biased against working mothers..some accused her of doing gender discrimination.. She called me up and told me how she was trolled..just the previous day her husband had yelled at her for not working and contributing to household income, and now this...being attacked personally on Facebook by random people.. The admins of the group are useless, they don’t even moderate abusive posts.. She was in tears and very upset and depressed...I consoled her and I too am feeling bad... Really, I’m amazed as to how bullying happens in real life and also online bullying happens on social media by random people who don’t even know you... I would rather post my problems anonymously on portals like indusladies where no one knows or judges me...else get info directly from known people ...what say? How do you handle online bullying on social media?