Dear friends.. I was thinking of writing about how we can lead our life postively..and happily even when we are facing lot of problems in married life.. I have been a silent reader and not only are we helping The Ops but also those who are not able to express themselves onthis forum..I have learnt alot thtough this forum by only being a silent reader.. Its an established fact that females have to adjudt and bear a lot after marriage.. I have observed mostly inlaws create problems and sometimes husband wife issues and abusive spouses force us to take drastic steps to keep our sanity. After a decade of being married i have observed a few points ..if we follow these it will help us in having peace of mind and having a better life.. *We consider our spouses as our life and give so much importance to them whereas they cosider as just a part of life..so those of uz who think husband is busy with friends and gadgets culivate a hobby and be busy with kids ..enjoy With them and join women clubs or go out with friends * Those cosidering divorce and living in abusive marriages..should secure jobs or start some small buisness and join women clubs and enjoy with friends In short Life is so much more than being married and having alobinv and super caring and romantic husbands. *Inlaws issues : keep them where they belong ..dont give them so much place in your head And never fight with ur spouse on issues created by them..that is what there purpose is.. Try to b cordial and diplomatic with ur husbands I hope this summarizes most of the solutions to married life problems.. And guys most important educate ur daughter so ghat the are self dependent and dont make ur sons so much dependent on u that they bcome mommas boy..lets create a society where married life will b easier for both wives and husbands..