Being good mother-in-law is a problem?

Dear sangs,
some girls have this pre-conceived idea that their in laws will not be good to them and it applies to both men and women, so it is tough, any amount of your being good it is tough to get them to accept and here i see it has leaked into the hubby reltionship also, that he will ill treat even without having an analysis of the person.

here it is the parent or a mediator can do wonders, talk to the parents and tell them about the girls not as a problem but the way of thinking this can help the parent look into her future and help her out, but sometime girls walkout of parents too, pl try to locate a friend of hers or a common family friend who is good to both the families and who is very apt at handling such a delicate situation, no direct approach but yes a hint here and there do help..sunkan