Being a role model, how difficult can it be???

Shanvy · Jul 7, 2009

thozhi4u,

Welcome here.

Many a times, there are people who make great role models but lousy parents too..(will not give examples, as they are controversial), yes experiences are great teachers and if you are a student always, you learn from them everyday....

Thanks for being here.

Mindian · Jul 9, 2009

dear shan,

late entry from me but glad i did not miss this as it is a favourite topic in our house..

atleast you girls still have a chance as your kids are growing up but OMG mine is over,just kidding as it is a life long process,no?

now she is an eighteen year old ....we treat her as an adult as she has very definite views and thoughts...generally we talk of everything as friends...yes, i do keep the thought "it was so different in our times " to myself...always there to listen and TRYING not to be judgemental..

and I do confess to her about not being the" perfect" person always and that since she still has age and time on her side she can be a better person than me..

love
mindi

Shanvy · Jul 9, 2009

mindi dear, :cheers...
I believe that being there for the kids is a life long process.

Good to know that you share the same views as mine with regard to being a role model.

I feel, without being worried about being on the pedestal it is great to step down and say i am not perfect, but you can be perfect, by learning from my mistakes.

thanks for being here buddy...

deraj · Jul 18, 2009

Hi Shanvy

Nice to see your passage on "being a role model....." very correct. You have a very great soul. Thats why you can think about all these and share it with everybody. Hats off to you Shanvy. I am going to read all your blogs and trying to understand how to be a role model and how to be an example (atleast at my mid 30s). Examples can be of two types. A good one and a bad one. I will be a good example.....I swear!!

Shanvy · Jul 18, 2009

Deraj,

I am humbled to see that my blog has made you sit and think and analyze..

I just share what i have seen around, and what i have learned through my experiences...

Shanvy · Sep 8, 2012

i wrote this few years back, and introspect on the subject every now and then.

It takes a lot to stand up for your kids..but the first step starts with you kneeling and reaching to him rather than expecting him to leap up to you..and this piece of news really made me feel happy

just wanted to share it here