Be Yourself

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  1. vidhi

    vidhi Senior IL'ite

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    "An old man, staying in a small south Indian town
    > came to visit his son in
    > Bombay recently. The son in his early thirties is a
    > successful businessman
    > living with his wife and son. The father, having
    > spent most of his life at
    > his birthplace, hardly understands a splatter of
    > Hindi or English, forget
    > Marathi. But he doesn't care. 'I have come here to
    > spend a few days with my
    > son and his family. I don't have to go out and
    > socialize with the city
    > people,' he said.
    > But the son is very excited about his father's rare
    > visit to Bombay. He
    > wants to make the best of it. He and his wife want
    > to show him around the
    > city. And yes, the son enjoys those evening hours
    > too, when he and his
    > father go out and sit in a good bar, sipping their
    > favorite drink.
    > Last week he was in a very good mood. 'Let's go to
    > a five star hotel's bar
    > tonight,' he told his father. It was a beautiful
    > evening. Talking about
    > everything under the sun they had a few drinks. As
    > usual they were offered
    > some salad, peanuts, wafers etc .as accompaniments
    > with their drinks. The
    > old man being almost toothless was not much
    > interested in eating. But that
    > day when they got up to leave, he simply took a
    > handful of chana (roasted
    > grams) and stuffed it in the fold of his dhoti. He
    > might have thought about
    > munching on them, sitting in the car, or whatever.
    > Unfortunately while
    > walking in the lobby, he missed a step and
    > stumbled. Down he went,
    > scattering the chana on the plush carpet. No
    > problem .Now lets try to
    > visualize this scenario. Someone else in his son's
    > place would have been
    > mortified, embarrassed to death. He might have
    > cursed not his father but his
    > own self for causing this awkward situation. 'Never
    > again will I take my old
    > man to such hotels', he would have vowed. No sir,
    > not this son. Gently,
    > with a smile, he helped his father get back on his
    > feet. Instead of feeling
    > irritated or angry, he was amused. He found the
    > whole incident very funny.
    > Laughing, they both went home and on the way they
    > decided to return to the
    > same place the following Sunday. The old man liked
    > the place & the chana
    > too. A son rises A few days back; at a friend's
    > place they both described
    > this event and made everybody laugh.
    > Weren't you embarrassed? Somebody asked the son.
    > 'Oh, come on now' replied
    > the son. 'He is my father. He talks in his native
    > language, prefers to wear
    > a dhoti even to a posh city hotel, takes chana from
    > the bar to eat later,
    > does whatever he feels like.... So what? Why should
    > I feel embarrassed with
    > his nature and habits? Nobody has a right to stop
    > him from doing whatever he
    > feels comfortable with, as long as it is not harmful
    > to others.'
    > The son doesn't care what the staff in the hotel
    > thought about that
    > incident. He says 'they should be concerned only
    > with their bills and tips.
    > I am concerned about my father's happiness.' The
    > wife too totally agrees
    > with the husband on this issue. She feels there are
    > enough other qualities
    > in her father- in- law to feel proud of.


  2. vidhi

    vidhi Senior IL'ite

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    • > Accept them .The above incident is not mentioned
      > just to show the love and
      > devotion of a son for his father. More than love it
      > is a matter of
      > understanding and a healthy respect for the other
      > person's lifestyle. A
      > seventy plus old man doesn't want to change his
      > lifestyle now. He likes the
      > way he eats or dresses or talks. In his eyes there
      > is nothing wrong with the
      > old ways of living. And the son says, "ok, fine.
      > Every body has a right to
      > live as per his wish. Now at his age, why should he
      > be forced to learn to
      > eat with a fork and knife, if he doesn't want to? I
      > will feel bad if he is
      > doing something morally wrong or indulging in some
      > harmful activities. But
      > otherwise it is fine. I am not going to try to
      > change him at this stage. He
      > is my father. I love him, respect him."
      > Hey folks, can you think this way? So many times we
      > see people getting
      > embarrassed by the so-called unsophisticated
      > behavior of their family
      > members. They keep on apologizing about their lack
      > of class and manners or
      > about their drawbacks to outsiders. My wife can't
      > speak proper English; she
      > doesn't know what's happening in the world, so I
      > avoid taking her out or
      > introducing her to my friends and business
      > associates... My parents can't
      > eat with a spoon and fork, so I don't take them to
      > restaurants.... My
      > husband is working as an ordinary clerk, so I feel
      > awkward when I introduce
      > him to my rich friends. My brother is mentally
      > challenged, so I don't feel
      > like going out with him... Are you plagued with such
      > thoughts or do you meet
      > such people who think alike?
      > If you do, please ask yourself. Why do others or I
      > feel this way? Really
      > what is there to feel ashamed of? Most of the people
      > always have this fear
      > of other peoples' opinions and comments. What would
      > others say? They think
      > and try to alter their own way of living, sometimes
      > unnecessarily.
      > What is worse is they try to change their own people
      > too. And when they
      > can't, they are ashamed, angry and apologetic to
      > outsiders. In fact, these
      > are the people who have no respect for others and no
      > confidence in oneself.
      > They try to copy others, try to be what they are
      > not, and constantly ask for
      > outsiders' approval for their behavior. They don't
      > care about the feelings
      > of their family members when they avoid or belittle
      > them. They don't think
      > how happy his or her family member would feel if
      > he/she gets an opportunity
      > to go to some swanky restaurant or a fun-filled
      > party. Your spouse, your
      > parents, your grandparents, your sibling, and your
      > children: - All these
      > people are depending on you for their happiness. if
      > you don't fulfill their
      > desires, who will?
      > They are what they are. We are what we are. We
      > don't have to change
      > ourselves to please strangers. And if you do, you
      > are in for life long
      > misery. In that case you would never dare taking
      > your dhoti clad relative to
      > a five star hotel. And your father would never sit
      > amongst your friends and
      > laugh his heart out over some funny incident."
      > So, the moral is:"as long as it is not harming
      > anyone (including you), be
      > yourself in your own special way.
      > And enjoy each and every moment passing away."


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