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Be a diplomat or unpopular straight forward person?

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  1. kanaka

    kanaka Bronze IL'ite

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    How should one be?-a big diplomat with sugar coated pills. or a person who believes in calling a spade a spade. Iam at loss. Sometimes I feel though people may dislike or rather try to avoid you in the long run sincerity and frankness pays a lot.

    It hurts people to hear the bitter facts. Ultimately at the end of the day you will be definitely be respected for your outspokeness though no one would like to admit openly. kanaka
     
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  2. Srama

    Srama Finest Post Winner

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    Re: Be a diplomat or unpopular ftraight forward person?

    Kanaka,

    When I read your post, I was reminded of this Sanskrit Shubhashitam, googled it and here it is with meaning.

    satyam bruyat priyam bruyat na bruyat satyam apriyam
    priyam ca nanrutam bruyat esha dharmah sanatanah
    (Manu Smruti)
    Speak truth in such a way that it should be pleasing to others. Never speak truth, which is unpleasant to others. Never speak untruth, which might be pleasant. This is the path of eternal morality, sanatana dharma.
     
  3. kanaka

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    Re: Be a diplomat or unpopular ftraight forward person?

    Dear Srama,

    I enjoy reading this subhashitam always. Na apriyam bhruyate! kanaka
     
  4. dolorcosta

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    Dear Kanaka

    Two important issues are :
    1. What you say - must be the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth
    2.How you say -The words must come out as sweetly and smoothly as honey being poured from a jug !

    Regards.
     
  5. Sriniketan

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    Kanaka,
    I certainly go with you and also with rama's ( Thanks for googling it for us to know) and dolorcosta..

    I remember the following quote while reading such a topic..

    'speak the truth in such a way., even if the other person is going to go to h.. that he would be looking forward to..:)

    only sugar-coated truth is always the best..

    sriniketan
     
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    Kanaka dear
    In todays world being a diplomat only works.
    Many of us find this the hard way.. though there are many who are very capable of handling everything in a diplomatic fashion!
    One can still be a diplomat to others but straight forward to close family and friends, right?
    Its striking a balance like everything else.
     
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    Re: Be a diplomat or unpopular ftraight forward person?

    Rama
    Do share more about Sanskrit Shubhashitam
    if you have time:)
     
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    Dear Chitra,
    Was getting irritated over some issues. Hence this post. These days don't feel like writing. kanaka
     
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    Dea r Dolorcosta,

    Thanks dear. kanaka
     
  10. swapna15

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    Like others have said you have to strike the balance between the two.

    You can't always be straight forward person hurting people left, right and center. In order to lead a peaceful life one needs to be diplomatic too.

    You should tell the truth but in a way that it shouldn't hurt the people around you.

    -Swapna
     

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