My parents are here in US with me and stuck here because of COVID-19. In a way I am happy because I am getting to spend more time with them, but ever since I was growing up we have had issues with relatives and my mom would always bring it up every few days. This affected my and my bro's mental health, our life and in a way our studies too. My mom went through bad domestic violence for the initial 5 years of her married life since my dad was mama's boy and even after they got separated from my dad's side family, there was still some pressure on my mom from their side and from my dad as well. My mom went into depression for 10years and somehow got out of it. Anyways, fast forward, there was a lot of fights and now my dad side's relatives are no more in contact with us. I thought that would make life easier, but no. It's been 7 years that my dad retire and ever since then, every other day my mom brings up how she was tortured all her life. My dad now understands it and accepts that whatever he did was wrong and always takes my mom's side and follows whatever she says. In a way I was happy being in US as I don't have to listen to it over and over every other day. I too understand she has been through bad times, but I don't understand how is the past going to be fixed now if she keeps bringing it up. It has increased in last couple years i.e. if anything happens in the world whether it's related to my life, politics or anything, my mom will try to talk about it and then slowly divert that topic back to how inlaws treated her, starts blaming my dad for not speaking up for her back then and then it gets converted into small fights. I see my dad crying after that and he has got super quite in last few years. She does that here in US as well. I have tried telling her to invest her time or take interest in learning something else, but nothing works. She only likes to cook, look at whatsapp messages and talk about relatives and connect everything in the world to the past. Today it was worst, they both fought and I heard my dad crying and telling her that's her behavior is affecting his mental health now. He is not able to take it anymore and is not able to sleep at nights. He agrees and knows he was bad in past, but repeating it every other day is not going to improve anything. I had to raise my voice and tell my mom to stop it as these things have already affected her in life and others in the family too. But whenever I speak up, she fights back with me saying I don't want to understand her or what all she has been through. Or she will say that since I got educated and started earning money, I don't want to hear her and I am disrespecting her. All I want is for them to spend their rest of the life happy without bringing up their past every now and then. Also I have lost my grandparents and my Mama(mom's bro) as their mental health had weakened out due to similar reasons, so I am afraid of losing my parents too. I and my bro have tried fixing this for last many years, but nothing seems to work. Not sure if things will ever get fixed, but I wanted to vent it out as there is no one else I could go and speak too.