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back to this forum after 2 yrs....Bigger issues this time.

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by sonika1976, Jul 13, 2012.

  1. Flyhighbluesky

    Flyhighbluesky Silver IL'ite

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    Sonika dear your're only 32? OMG! What are you doing? Why do you want this man?? He's an excellent provider? Is that what you want to teach your Son? He's 5 and like it or not his minds registering enough info in his head!

    You atleast have to seperate! give some months time... Do yu have any friends you can stay with over there? Use te money you have withdrawn and earn it back later and return it to him for your own peiece of mind or better still throw it back at him now! And find other means!! U hate yourself? cuz yu still take care of your child and are tolerating all this nonsense for his sake? you shud be strong! I know its a confusing situation... but the bottom line is he doesnt care about you and gives a damn about trashing your feelings! He should be ashamed of doing that to anybody let alone his wife!

    Sonika, take a break! go to a friends! do some therapy! get that certification! find a good job! take responsibility of your happiness only then will happiness come to you...
     
  2. flowerlady

    flowerlady IL Hall of Fame

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    Hi Friend,
    You are letting your H wreck your health and personality. We are responsible for ourselves. Being young you can jolly well make a life for yourself as your H seems to be a controlling man who does not care or respect you.
    Please develop self confidence, his comments have turned you into a mass of quivering nerves.

    Learn to stand up for yourself if you want to continue in the relationship or try trial separation to regain your health.
    Try to volunteer or join some hobbies, social groups .
    People will know you as Sonika and not Mrs X, it works wonders for a wounded ego.
     

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