Hi All, Thanks all for suggestions. Understand early intervention importance as i see development delay on him. Will start therapies as soon as i reach India from next month. Now i could see my son eye contact improved a lot, atleast to known faces. Stranger he still avoids eye contact. May be with practice i hope he will improve. And certain improvement like when i say jump he will run and come to me no matter how busy with his toys and hold my hands and try to jump. If my husband says jump he will look for me to hold my hands. As he likes jumping i make him jump a lot in bed. As he keeps eye contact and enjoys. Finally feeling so happy that he understands atleast 1 word and responds to it though he is busy with some thing. Just have few queries. Can suggest on this. 1. And also when ever we say clap your hands he will come to us and start clapping our hands. he does not clap his hands. He will use my hands to clap and keep looking at me. When i stop saying clap he will leave. So not sure whether this is ok or not. we did try to change his hands to clap. but he is not so interested clapping on his own. Though we I was ok as he keeps eye contact atleast and attend us. But read somewhere in internet that autism kids use parents hand as tool. Not sure he is using my hands as tool. As some times he does use my hands to take things out from container when he does not know how to open it. I take the container near my eyes to make him eye contact and open the box and give him. Is it so these kids use our hands as tool.? 2. And now whenever my daughter has some toys on her hand. It might be even piece of paper. But if it is on her hand thats all. He goes and tries to grab it from her. This he will do it on our home, not outside. Initially he does not even recognize her. Though he is interested on toys in her hand. But still he will not look on her and just look on the toys on her hand. At least he is alert on people and follows her i think. Should i stop him doing this? Mostly i request my daughter to give up by giving her something else (most of the times she also understands. As i can console her in more ways so not worried on my daughter). Is it ok? Also if she is sitting on my lap he will push her out and he will sit. It is cute for me 3. How to make him calm when i try to read a book or show him flash card. When ever i take board books or flash card or any new things. He will try to grab only and will keep turning the pages on own . Does not even give time to open and show him. But still on his lap and try to hold pages teach him. Hope he hears those words . Flash card is still worse. He will grab it from me start folding or trying to tear and start walking . How to help this situation 4. Also when ever i take outside may be park he will not even look for us not even one single eye contact. Also he has so many to things to look. So we are not interesting for him. Even if i try to sing or some routine activities which he will show interste. still he will play on his own like climbing or running. If he wants to play on swing may be he will go near to that and start crying. Meaning we should help him on swing as he cant do on his own. Then he will do it. Again even on swing i try to swing on front. As he will try to look .. may be once he will look. Sometimes i feel outdoor play is not helping at all for interaction. Can suggest how to deal with this. 5. And whenever u talk to ur kids which language do u all use. At home we always use tamil only. But mostly he will do his schooling in Singapore only. As only me and hubby knows talk to english at home and my husband not interested to talk english at home. My dd suffered because of this. Though she is super smart kid, at 5 yrs she can sing complicated carnatic songs, chinese songs and talk so much maturely beyond her age level. She struggled in school when everyone talks in english. And she does not know. At school they told her that she is lost kid when we talk to her. Felt very bad at that time for my dd. Finally i helped her. It took almost 3-6 months for her to pick up english language. Now she is ok. And for my son i dont want the same trouble as he will take more time to pick things up. I know talking and teaching 1 language is most important. How did u all managed this bilingual env? 6. Whenever he sleeps, there should be kept as piece of cloth in his bed which he will hold it and start sucking thumb and fall into sleep. This was his sleep routine from beginning. As making him sleep is not so easy as he does not like to lie on lap or on shoulders. May be even if he lies he wont close his eyes. Only when he sucks his hand he will close his eyes. There was piece of sheet which will prevent my bed from accidents leaking from diaper. So he started holding on it automatically. Now without this cloth texture he cant sleep. But with this cloth he will be calm and suck his thumb. Not sure whether he listens to me or not. But still i will talk to him and say some stories he does not react. he will see me some time. as we can never see him at lying 1 place this cloth can do magic. My husband says he is too much dependent on this cloth. We tried removing it. He does not suck his thumb without this. so he does not sleep at all and start becoming cranky. Not sure how to remove this dependency please help with suggestions and experiences.