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'Attending' Problems

Discussion in 'Snippets of Life (Non-Fiction)' started by Agatha83, Mar 20, 2016.

  1. Agatha83

    Agatha83 IL Hall of Fame

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    Dear Periamma,

    I am doing things more with a sense of duty rather then love. All the love is lost when your labour gets back insults and angry jibes in return. For 15 long years me and my mother are caught in an intangible web of fate, with my health going down. That's why I let out my anxiety pouring out my woes in this forum. Thank you very much for your warm words of appreciation.

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  2. Agatha83

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    Dear Pushpa,

    Living long will not be a problem as long as we are able to look after ourselves. We have to be both physically and mentally fit if we don't want to burden our kids. Of course It is destiny which plays the final trump card.
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    Dear Pushpa,

    Living long will not be a problem as long as we are able to look after ourselves. We have to be both physically and mentally fit if we don't want to burden our kids. Of course It is destiny which plays the final trump card.
    Agatha83
    Thank you Shobamma for your kind words and blessings.

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    Hi Agatha,

    I marvel at your talent in turning a agonized and distressed situation into a piece of art. That was some narration. On a serious note it pained to hear the trauma that is being caused to you by the attenders. Sometimes as much as we dislike someone or something, situation and circumstances force you to stay put and accept it. I have heard of similar issues that was faced my MIL's friend who was at the mercy of the attender. Her situation was even more worse since she was left alone at home with the attender. The attender had a gala time only eating and watching tv, not to forget snoozing during noon.

    I really hope and wish you'll find someone friendly and caring. Kudos to you for being there,overseeing and looking after your mother. They deserve the best. Thank you.
     
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  5. Agatha83

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    Dear Scorpio,

    Inspite of my continuous presence at home, I have seen my mom taking sides with those attenders, when they did mischievous things which I detested very much. Though I personally never liked to interfere in day to day affairs, I disliked the complete lack of professionalism, though the attenders wanted the comforts of an aircon, smart tv and unlimited food. But without any help I found it extremely difficult to handle the situation. Anyway life goes on! Thanks for your appreciative feedback.
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    Dear Scorpio,

    Inspite of my continuous presence at home, I have seen my mom taking sides with those attenders, when they did mischievous things which I detested very much. Though I personally never liked to interfere in day to day affairs, I disliked the complete lack of professionalism, though the attenders wanted the comforts of an aircon, smart tv and unlimited food. But without any help I found it extremely difficult to handle the situation. Anyway life goes on! Thanks for your appreciative feedback.
    Agatha83
     
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    So the young absent/previous attendees with their music on got you to dance? So what if it is with a broom and mop we all have to start some place. On a serious note for the life of me I cannot imagine how you manage people here. I am sure one needs a MBA or an attitude you have - to pick ones battles wisely. I have seen and heard many such stories. For the couple of years that we had to take help, I have to say we lucked out. But I do the dance with the maids - I ask no one to show up!

    Agatha you write beautifully and I enjoyed reading it.
     
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    Dear Rama,

    What a beautiful feed back. I know very well that a patient attender's job is not every one's cup of cake. But the day I saw them dancing with Jutkaas,bringing one Michael Jackson before me I was shocked. I thought why can' t these people join movies and take up to chorus dancing and make more money. My mom was dancing to their tunes, and I was dancing to my own out of sheer desperation!

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