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Discussion in 'Snippets of Life (Non-Fiction)' started by jskls, Mar 27, 2017.

  1. jskls

    jskls IL Hall of Fame

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    Based on a true story of a friend

    It was World Storytelling day. She wrote a story on how someone was contemplating suicide but the thought of their children made them change their mind. Even before she could share the story with anyone, unfortunate events unfolded one after another.

    As she was leaving work that day, a text message provoked her and made her too upset. Her grief, her sorrow, her sadness weighed her down. She was devastated and did something stupid that would cost her life. Soon, she realized her impulsive act, and wanted to write a note which was torn. She again tried to explain the need of a note as she didn't want any complications for her family. She wrote precisely what needs to be written and that's when her family understood the seriousness and called for help. By the time help arrived, she was already feeling drowsy. Antidote given to her did not help. Seeing her worried family in ER made her realize how stupid she had acted. But it was now a question of wait game. From 6 in the evening till 10 at night toxicity in her blood stream was increasing and it was midnight when the graph started falling down. That was when family knew she was out of danger. The whole time she felt completely restless, nauseated and wanted to unplug all the wires that surrounded her in the name of drips, heart monitor and run away. She was poked several times for blood work to monitor the toxicity. She was refused even a single drop of water for 12 hours. Her throat was dry, her head was ready to explode, she was disoriented and was on/off drifting to sleep.

    Next day morning she came to know that she had to be in a psych ward for next few days until they determined that she is not a threat to herself anymore. She was put on high dose of meds that she couldn't tolerate. All she wanted was to be with her family at home. Instead she ended up with bunch of people who needed help too. It was her cry for help that landed her here. She shared a room with another woman who had abused alcohol along with street drugs. There were others in the facility who were either street drug users, or alcoholics or people who felt jail was more safe and kids who needed help. She never imagined in her life that she would even meet people like them leave alone having to spend few days with them. It was a learning experience where she saw people who had worse problem than hers. She started observing her fellow inmates who taught her invaluable lessons. She realized that so many are out there with so many problems and ending life was not the answer.

    She started group therapy and all the counseling sessions were focussed on bringing out the positive attributes of each individual and to make them feel good about themselves. Social workers offered Cognitive behavior therapy that focused on practical hands-on approach to problem-solving. She learnt to monitor her thoughts, the triggers of emotional responses and resultant actions. She was offered all the tools that she could use when she has to face the same set of problems again.

    Her ordeal is far from over. She has to deal with the medicines, its side effects. She will be under watch for sometime but she is left with no choice. She has to face her loved ones with guilt and failure everyday. She has to meet with her psychiatrist and her doctor from time to time and continue with CBT. She has to worry about her hospital bills now. She is on her road to recovery which might take sometime and with support from her loved ones she will never think about doing something stupid again. She has strong loving support from her friends that is keeping her happy now.

    Suicide is not an answer to anything. Living this life to the fullest with a smile is the only possible solution.
     
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    satchitananda IL Hall of Fame

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    It's really sad when someone feels so hopeless that they try to end their lives and land up with more problems if they fail in their attempt. :-(
     
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    Dear JSKLS,
    What a great story to learn! Sometimes the treatment is worse than the disease itself.Let this story be an eye opener to people who decide to end their lives.
    The psychological depression is worse than any biological disorder.This entails not sympathy but rumour and gossip.Unfortunately theses decisions are taken at the highest emotional level and they have have no mind or intention to brood over future happenings.
    In Chennai every year in the last week of may ,so many attempts of suicide are made by students who have failed or even by top performers who didn't do to the level expected by their teachers/or over ambitious parents.
    I do not know whether the case relates to a patient in US.
    Leave alone this case.
    In US a5 year old boy studying in Kindergarten went inside a girl's bathroom.It seems that the teacher has asked some questions whether he knows to differentiate a girl from a boy.When the child answered in negative, the school authorities straight away wrote a note asking the parent to consult a psychologist.So many consultations and medications.They left US for good and settled in Bombay.No treatment in India, just a normal life.Now the boy is 27, happily married with a kid.The family is distantly related to us.
    I do not know whether the schools are going extra miles.
    Of course this has no connection with your story.Just I remembered the incident.

    Jayasala 42
     
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    Amica IL Hall of Fame

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    @jskls, I'm glad your friend is getting the help and support she needs. My prayers are with her. :worried:
     
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    Dear Lakshmi,

    I was deeply pained to know about what happened to your friend. My thoughts and prayers are with her. There is nothing that is worth losing the life for. Frankly, the time changes the mind so much. Had she waited a little longer and gave a chance to her discrimination power, she doesn't have to suffer emotional and physical pain. The life is invaluable and building that to be happy is #1priority.

    Loving oneself is what makes a person to love others. It is what we have in us, we can share.
     
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    @jskls - I'm deeply impacted today. I found out a few hours ago that a mom from my support group lost a young son to this tragedy. I've been walking around like a zombie going through the motions but your thread brought the tears out. I couldn't shake off the grief even though I didn't know her personally. I wish the right kind of support was available and accessible to everyone.

    It's so hard on the survivors. I'm going through the last Meetup in my head over and over. She must be going through the last time she spoke to her child and thinking about what she could have said or done differently.


    I'm thankful that your friend got a second chance. I've heard only good things about CBT. I hope she leads a fullfilled and happy life. I hope everyone who needs it gains access to CBT and psychiatric help. It's such a growing concern.
     
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    Sad to read but good to hear that your friend was saved from the attempt.

    Is it that the moment of utter foolishness, helplessness, madness, cowardice or bravery of someone who attempts to kill oneself???

    Dialogue with oneself and family, friends is the key to beat these self-centric/eccentric thoughts...
     
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    Lakshmi very sad to hear your friend's story .what made her to take such decision?Too much of anything is good for nothing.Love, affection,over confidence and self pity is dangerous. In her case Emotion dominated even to forget her children .very easy to comment her act but i can feel her pain .i pray to God to give her a peaceful state of mind.
     
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    Yes they hardly realize the aftermath of a failed attempt at that moment. Thanks Satchi for ur feedback .
     
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    Dear Jayasala mam
    Thanks for sharing your valuable feedback.
    Thats the main reason for sharing this here. If it can make a difference in someone's life I will be happy. In US it seems 1000 people die every year in such impulsive act. Yes some things are blown out of proportion but mental health is given highest importance.
     
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