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Asking For Change When You Don't Contribute Financially

Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by Dreamer, May 31, 2020.

  1. Dreamer

    Dreamer Silver IL'ite

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    Sorry I forgot to mention that my wife is the only daughter who was living with them. The elder sister is here because she is going through a divorce. Getting our own house in the city is not feasible as it's too expensive so i am staying here till I get a job in another city, which I am thinking would take two years.
     
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    nakshatra1 Platinum IL'ite

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    Sorry, your post is extremely confusing and I really don't have any suggestion.
     
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    Dreamer Silver IL'ite

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    I'm sorry about it!! I'm working from home and not good at multitasking (wish I was!). But I got plenty of suggestions here. I have put in a follow request to your profile and can frame my issue properly.
     
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    nakshatra1 Platinum IL'ite

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    Sorry, I have put on privacy settings as I dont want any direct messages/ any one-on-one conversations so cannot accept any requests.

    But my suggestion is to get clarity on your future situation before doing any construction .
     
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    Dreamer Silver IL'ite

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    No problem. Rephrasing:
    I moved in with my in laws because they asked me. Been here almost 4 years. Not the best people but I have adjusted with them. A little construction can make my life a little easier. I MIGHT move out in two years but might not either.

    According to most answers, I should ask them to renovate and spend the money. That seems okay.
     
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    To me it looks like you already made a lot of adjustment with the not so nice people... My suggestion would be spend the construction money from your pocket and then adjust it every month from your grocery expenditure??..... This little adjustment will make your life much better I think
     
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    Oh yeah,,, I forgot to mention,, your post was a good read.... Very refreshing indeed....
     

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