Art of getting along

Dear Oviya,
Lovely snippet on an important aspect of life !
For what Riya has written, I would use my word as chemistry! ( Not because, I am a chemistry graduate!!).
From my younger age, I find that in some friendships, call them relationships, I am not able to open up at all & I do become cautious. In spite of my best efforts, I do not succeed.
I am more sensitive than I should be, for my age - perhaps that is one reason. But, I realise, I have somewhere mellowed down along the line & make a definite effort to get along better, irrespective of how the other person feels about me.
I used to be an introvert in my school days and labelled "haughty". I took special care to shed that image, realising that was not my basic nature, but more an image put on, to avoid being hurt.
I now feel, I am happily "getting on" with such young friends like you all in IL! Am I right?
Love,
Chithra.

 

Dear oviya,
Nice thread.A person behaving optimistic or otherwise depends on how the other person behaves.I agree with u.We must get along .Maintaining human relations is an art.Our part is to avoid fault finding,gossips etc which may take us to some where.But as u asked if we across some negative reactions tolerating and being optimistic is something which is difficult.

According to me,i can mingle with others easily but on the other side it happens that we may not get enough response,in that case i always regret that i gave up my self esteem.But my attitide has helped to get some good friends in IL.Thanks for a lovely thread.

 

Oviya,

Chemistry/clicking factor or whatever you call is definitely there. But the first impressions need not always matter.

In my school days, people have to pay me to talk...was a very very silent observer....college again i used to talk a little...but got lot of friends basically because of being practical, and helping others and being very friendly...(i still wonder how i could do that without much talking)
Coming to work, my friendship with my friend started on a heated argument/fight.(that friend ended as my husband)

Life's experience teaches you to be wary, or to trust. Being open and not judging a person in the first meet helps a lot...but lot of the times, we have a predetermined judgement reserved. and I feel you view of a person should not be based on other's statement, you should be open and form your opinion. no person can be the same for everybody around him, because it all lies in the eyes of the person who sees him.

Again, I feel accepting a person as they are and not finding too many faults goes long way in a friendship or getting along.

Again getting along is an art. You can get along just superificially with a smile and few words. or you could light sparks with the chemistry.

 

Hi Oviya,

Human race being a 'salad' of a variety of people with varied tastes, temperment, likes, weakness, strength and a multitude of all those virtues within us, getting along with our co-species is indeed a herculean task !!!

ART is the right word to use, as it requires mastery over the virtue of getting along, and this is not within all our reach ! I suppose practice makes a man perfect !