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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by madhurisatya, Apr 29, 2009.

  1. madhurisatya

    madhurisatya Silver IL'ite

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    The woods were lovely dark and deep. Walking slowly beside her, in the

    damp mud road, was her husband whom she barely knew. He was very

    relaxed, happily watching a group of kids playing at a distance.

    Her "mehandi" was still dark and smelling fresh, reminding of the

    excitements and tension 2 days back. "It cant work this way

    mom...please stop this", she kept telling her mother till the last

    moment,who wouldnt listen but carry on with beautifying her.She had

    been crying all night and her make-up had to be patched up twice or

    thrice to hide her awkwardly swollen face.

    It was too late now.She had to get married "NOW" to the guy...The guy

    whom she had seen once and talked thrice.The guy about whom she knew

    nothing at all but for his name and work.Everything happened in a

    hurry and everthing was over before she could breathe again... here

    was she with this guy, all alone in this hill station... how can

    anybody send their daughter such a long distance with a stranger???

    "Hey look at that....!!!" he shouted in excitement... she shrugged and

    looked where his finger pointed...

    Bright colored balloons dotted the sky. Children were jumping in joy

    and he seemed to be completely absorbed into it...colors are always

    exciting...but not now.She was not with her friends, not with her team

    mates, not even with her parents. This was not a 3 day tour or team

    building trip.This was her life and she has been forced to start off

    with this person.

    Loneliness and discomfort with this stranger was sickening...She

    looked at him in wonder... does he even realize that he has married

    me?Does he understand that he has to love me,protect me,care for me,a

    new girl,a stranger,all his life?



    The marriage morning started like a daylight nightmare for her.The

    first time in life she felt she should have fallen in love and then

    married somebody. some man who she would have felt more comfortable

    with, someone whom she could call by name and introduce to friends,

    someone whom she could trust. But marriage morning was obviously not

    the time to think all these.

    Her parents would never have said "no" if she had declared that she

    was in love.But she was not emotionally attached to anybody she

    met,especially guys.She was very friendly,playing,teasing, but never

    had second thought for any man around her.That brought the entire

    responsibility of looking for a groom on her parents' shoulders.Her

    parents had had a very bad time with this entire process.They started

    their groom search with unending "&" operation. The concatenation of

    "Horoscope matching" & "Decent family" & "Good looking" & "Good pay" &

    "same cast" & so on... that always gave 0 output.Now after all that 8

    months hunt,they were not ready to hear her "ifs" and "buts" for this

    'good guy'.

    She had explained to her father.She does not feel anything for this

    person.He is nothing more to me than any other software

    professional.Like list of names she sees in the chat rooms. Distant

    and usual...Her father asked her to talk to him and even meet him and

    discuss their likes and dislikes.That meeting started like the

    induction programme self introduction and ended like a 3 hour

    seminar.She was waiting to get away from that place."So did you talk

    with him?"."yes"."was he polite and decent"."yes"."Oh he got that

    special flavoured tri-color icecream...!!!".OK.All her family and

    relatives discussed...She was given the chance to "understand her life

    partner" and that they have understood each other "well" and she is

    ready for the marriage now.
     
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  2. madhurisatya

    madhurisatya Silver IL'ite

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    All arrangements geared up and it was 24 days after her first meeting

    that she was getting married to her man... perfect match as everybody

    else described.Marriage hall was full with excited people, kids got

    the chance to play,ladies got the chance to wear the silk saree.The

    smell of rose and jasmine filled the hall.Different poses for the

    photographer and atrificial smiles for the videos.The moment he had

    tied the sacred thread was unexplainable vaccum in the head.It was

    over.She was his wife.Accepted by the society and law.Her proud

    parents were relaxed.This was their duty they had been planning to

    fulfill since she was born.All this crowd will fade away,leaving her

    to explore her new world...

    He pulled her hand gently to sit on the stone bench.The bench was wet

    and the chillness was indeed enjoyable."So what are you thinking

    about?"... that was an unexpected ball.should she reply?should she be

    silent?She remembered the two hour presentation she had taken last

    month.Bold and confident, she kept answering all the queries with a

    broad smile.Now she remained silent."Do you know honey... I was not

    for this marriage too..." Oh my God... what did i hear??? did HE tell

    that or did i think aloud? what does he mean?didnt he like me?was he

    forced into this? He must have noticed the quizzical look on my

    face...with a gentle smile he continued..."I wanted to look for a girl

    myself,buy her everything,care for her,argue with her,laugh and cry

    with her,then get married to her... Anything otherwise would be a

    drama. Traditional drama and i was not for it anytime. But my love for

    my work and also my stress would not give me time and mind to search

    that girl...When your parents talked to me 2 weeks before our

    marriage, about your fear of getting married,to a stranger, i could

    completely understand your mind. I could see myself in you and that

    was the moment i decided i will marry you.There was no time to prove

    myself to you,make you trust me,everything happened in a hurry.But

    there was the entire life before me, to please you,to love you, to

    make you trust me.This is no less than what i had dreamt,the girl i

    was waiting for,is you.Now tell me... will you love me???" Tears came

    down her cheek.Her parents had done more than their duty.They had

    found her the perfect guy. Thank you Mom!!! Thank you Dad!!! His

    question remained unanswered yet both knew the answer....


    These are the feelings every girl will have who is going for arranged marriage..What do you say ILs!!!

    Source: email from my friend
     
    Last edited: Apr 29, 2009
  3. umasridharan

    umasridharan Senior IL'ite

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    very nice one, expressing the emotions of thousands of youngsters - Indian youngsters - who are getting married.
    Uma
     
  4. Prettina

    Prettina Gold IL'ite

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    Written nice

    thanks for the share

    true indeed
     
  5. ennaye

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    roopanair123 Gold IL'ite

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    hi madhuri,

    too good..thanks for sharing..:thumbsup
     
  7. Padmini

    Padmini IL Hall of Fame

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    dear madhuri,
    the feelings and experiences of a newly married girl before and after marriage is beautifully brought down by you.
    with love
    pad
     
  8. Drpreethis

    Drpreethis Gold IL'ite

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    Simply toooooo good, madhu !! It is simply awesome !!! :) I just loved the narration.. How about introducing this friend of yours to me.. I wonder from where she gets these wonderful write ups !!!!

    I am defntely going to share this with my friends !! Thanks a Lott for posting it for us !
     
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    Wonderful :)
    Felt like my own flashback...only, I had all these thoughts before the engagement day :)
    Great write up too!!
     
  10. archana2008

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    Thanks a lot for sharing, Write up is wonderful :thumbsup
     

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