Are you undecided whether to read this or not?

Dear Cheeniya Sir

Yesterday i witnessed a small incident which gives a whole new meaning to this decidophobia factor. It made think of your thread sir and the various aspects of taking decisions that you have discussed here. I enjoyed the incident and it made me aware of another factor in taking decisions and i wished to share it with you...

"I was walking along the lovely streets of Istanbul with my husband and two children.Having enjoyed the Hustle and Bustle of the shopping and tourist spots we were enjoying a leisurly stroll along one of the side roads lined with small cafes and bars.

We stopped in one of those cafes for a cup of Tea. We placed an order for chai and along came a japanese lady. After exchanging mutual pleasantries i noticed that the lady had not placed an order but was keenly observing the shopkeeper making two glasses of Pomegranate juice. I could see that she was trying to observe how the juice was being made, whether the seeds are being crushed together, how the juice was served into the respective glasses and finally how it was being presented to the customers. After careful observation of all these factors, she asked the opinion of the two Americans who had ordered the same and when they replied with a smile it was excellent , she raises a hand to signal to the shopkeeper to make one for her.

And finally when the juice arrived, she sits back to take a long leisurly sip and heaved a sign of complete satisfaction. I could see in her face the happiness that one has acheived on taking a well thought out, carefully planned decision which will defenitly yeild complete satisfation to the mind and heart.

Every day i learn something new....."

With Warm Regards
Jay.

 

Dear Cheeniya Sir,

actually after seeing the topic i was in dilemma..read it or not..but this topic made me to read.........this word is not at all associated with me except for mornig breakfast whether i should have it after shower or before........but this problem is explained well...many of us will realize today that they have this problem.

regards,
Padma

 

Dear Cheeniya Sir

I read your post last week and was indecisive as to what should be a good FB.

I got to know the difference between indecisiveness and dilemma. Now, I know that i always used dilemma for simple indecessiveness.

If the choice is between two desirable things but which are mutually exclusive, will it be called Dilemma. For example, choice between two prospective grooms, or dilemma is always referred to when one has to make choice bewteen undesirable things.

Thanks
Ansh

 

Dear cheeniya sir,
Definitely,Indecisiveness spoils our mind which in turn leads to confusions,confusions leads to anxiety and finally we may or may not end up in depression.There is a possibility.Moreover as u said the decision taken out of dilemma makes the scenario even worse as adding fuel to the already burning fire.
I totally surrender with u on your opinion abt decisions taken for choosing a life partner.I find that a major decision is taken across a coffee,bajji,bonda.On the other hand people who wait,analyse and decide things carefully have more chances to lead a satisfying life .Your reply is really an eye opener.

BC

 

Dear Sri,

When I read this post, I wanted to reply... but after seeing Shan's reply I got into the phobia.... Also, I dont know what I should say.... But after reading all these golden words...

Very few instances, i have had this dilemma that too for a few minutes, when somebody is also involved in my decisions...something similar to a prisoner's dilemma... – Shanvy

its not so easy to make this decision making in family life - especially with relatives. – Aishu

it is not uncommon that we let our decisions be taken by others. I call it Divine intervention! – Cheeniya

somethings has to be compromised for a a better gain – Jaynat

To have the woman of the house take every decision of importance is the ultimate dream of every man. A man is more scared of accountability than of cockroaches! It is a lot easier to let the decions be taken by Her Highness whether they go right or wrong. It is easier to put up with it than take a wrong decision and be bombarded by HH for life! – Cheenia

i know of the zodiac sign that lead in this factor – Sunkan

The people who never take any decisions in their career advance smoothly in the hierarchy as compared to people who are prone to take fast decisions. – Cheeniya

A sound and healthy mind may not suffer from decidophobia - Meeta

When it comes to Offficial matters, my decision taking process is fast and I am clear as to what to do...

On the contrary, when it comes to the domestic decision making... I normally try to be docile.. and leave the decision making to Shan... She is a strong character with stong determination and puts forth her thoughts to me with practical examples etc and make it look like a practical solution... Asusual, being a husband who loves his wife more than anything... I will also agree to her, even though at times I would like to differ with her....hahahahahaha... Hope She is not reading this and coming back with a stick.....bonkbonkbonkbonkbonk...

Veda