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Are you too possesive of your husband? ( Exclusively for ladies)

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by PushpavalliSrinivasan, Dec 19, 2007.

  1. PushpavalliSrinivasan

    PushpavalliSrinivasan IL Hall of Fame

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    Hi ladies,
    Am I asking a silly question? You might say that it is natural for any woman to be possesive of her husband. I am not talking about husbands flirting with other women. There are women who think that the husband belongs to them only. Even if they spend time with friends are talk to the parents for a long time they feel jealous. If they buy gifts or give money to their siblings they could not tolerate it. They have the mentality, "En purushan than enkku mattum than."
    From the time I got married my hubby never used to stay at home after he returned from office. He was a socialising person. He was a member of Tamil Sangam and so when ever there was a function he was the first person to go and make arrangements like spreading the carpet and putting the benches etc, and the last to leave. If any one died he and his friends were called for help. He used to do small rolls in dramas that were staged during Ramanavami festival. The day the drama was to be staged I had a miscarriage, but he had to go. Another time the drama troup participated in a national competition at Allahabad.and I was laid with high fever, but he had to go. They won the first or second prize also.
    Even now he is involved in local temple administration. If he takes any responsibility , he will give his life and soul. But he never shirked his responsibility to his family also. But when any one asked him at what standard his son or daughter was studying, he had to ask us. But I love himwith all his short comings that I will write another time. I am proud of him.
     
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  2. heron

    heron Platinum IL'ite

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    Iam not possessive about money because its his money and he is wise enuf to spend on what he likes.

    But Iam super possessive about attention. I feel like: No one else must get as much attention as I do and sometimes I get hurt because it dosent happen. But thankfully mostly Iam in the priority list so its still fine.:coffee
     
  3. spuppala

    spuppala Gold IL'ite

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    I donno about your question but am very much thrilled and happy to know about your husband..Such a nice mean he is..You should be very proud of him :) My sincere namaskars to him!Kudos to you Uncle!
     
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    pretty84 New IL'ite

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    A good discussion..appreciate
     
  5. anitharajan

    anitharajan Bronze IL'ite

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    There is one dialogue from movie "Mangatha"

    Nee nallavan thaan, indha ponnugala thaan namba mudiyadhu - by Trisha.

    That way i am... my husband is too loving and he loves me like hell. But at the same time there are girls who will try to flirt with him and he is of dont care type. He pays attention like this business, Parents, Wife & etc...
    But i'm very possessive and initially i was expecting for so many stuffs... but later i understood his side and stopped expecting Started loving what he really does for me.... He loves me. I think this is enough for me to live the life.

    I love my Dear Husband more than anything in this world.

    Cheers,
    AnithaB
     
  6. Saumyamom

    Saumyamom Silver IL'ite

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    I am possessive of things like my pen,pencil,room,car,bed sheets etc. .I used to feel a little hurt when my father would call anybody else 'beta' very lovingly or for that matter any friend of mine gets too close to my sister (for my sister i.e.) ,so one can imagine how possessive I would like to be for my husband naturally ,But I have suppressed it to a great extent ,because either I am out or at the bottom of his priority list most of the time ,so expecting something like this is as good as hoping to win a lottery or something.
     
  7. aminroop

    aminroop IL Hall of Fame

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    hmmm, not really. actually, i would say not at all. i wonder why, though.
     
  8. sstha

    sstha Silver IL'ite

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    I am super possessive, i hate if he gives too much attention to his friends, parents.

    I am lucky since i am always on the top of his priority list.
     
  9. smilinglily

    smilinglily New IL'ite

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    Not really. I used to be a tad bit posessive when I was very newly married (< 1 yr) after that I never was :)
     
  10. ranjanilogu

    ranjanilogu New IL'ite

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    Yes, Ofcourse.... It feels lik heaven, wenever i'm the top of his priority list.. and thats the thing which drives me happy till now....
     

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