This is a question, which we tend to ask ourselves, when expectations about us soar high in the circle of our family and friends! This term was unheard of by me, in my younger days! I wonder if superwomen were non-existent then or it is a newly coined term to denote a woman who is a career woman as well as a home maker. A friend says, after Superman made his entry 50 yrs back, Superwoman followed him! That sounds very reasonable!! As soon as you are married and enter your husband's home, your in-laws are likely to think that they have bagged for their pampered son, the best bride. They want you to be 1 -The torchbearer of the family 2 - The perfect companion for their son 3 - A mother to grandchildren who bring home only laurels in studies, sports and not to forget extracurricular activities 4 - An expert cook, who can dish out tiramasu as effortlessly as idli-sambar 5 - An adorable "daughter-like" daughter in law None of these is an easy role! Very often the expectations surpass your capacity and disillusionment sets in inevitably! We are very often cramped and stifled within the framework of our limitations and tend to forget to be ourselves. We are at our best as individuals. Fixing targets for us is like tying a stone to the legs of a soaring bird! A woman unfettered by targets can surpass all expectations in every field of her activity, as a professional, as a housewife, as a mother, as a friend, whatever! Thinking back, when I first heard of Jacqueline Kennedy, I thought she was a superwoman, the press was raving about. Her successor in that category was Princess Diana! Looking back, I think, they were more admired for their beauty and position than their accomplishments. Now we talk of Kalpana Chawla and Sunitha Williams, the same way. Yet another superwoman was our own late Prime Minister Indira Gandhi. When we read about , say, Indira Nooyi, we tend to think, she is a superwoman. It is no easy task, unless you Are gifted with best brains Have applied yourself conscientiously in education and career Are blessed with a supportive family Are wholeheartedly and judiciously able to balance career and family. I am neither a champion nor a conqueror nor idol, least of all, a heroine! But very often, my husband would like me to be one, to suit his needs! His concept is I must be a good cook I must keep an impeccable home I must be a "handywoman" for an emergency I must gain the confidence of all relatives ………………………………………………………… But, friends, let me frankly admit, I just love to be myself, flaws and all! Love, Chithra.