Are We All Hypocrite?

True love will accept a person for who he/she is. Everyone of us have these episodes of anger shouting and arguments. But that doesn't define our character. At the same time, if only negative emotions are what you can express to your spouse taking him/her for granted, it is unfair to expect him/her to stick to this because they are afterall humans with emotions and need for love.

So i feel if you go overboard in any of your emotions it will not help in the long run.

 

More than selfish or hypocrites, we are humans ! All of us are grays, no black or white !!

 

The fact that you found your behaviour to be hypocritical is in itself a good first step of self realisation. Only when you recognise the problem, you can find a solution. Now, you can figure out a way for a fair relationship that doesn't question your own behaviour.

Are we selfish? Are we hypocrites? Yes n No!
It depends on the situation. Just like all the topics, it stands divided too. As not all are like that.

Personally, I have learnt to not do something if I don't want someone else to do it to me.

So if am not perfect n want my hubby to accept my flaws .. I expect myself to accept his flaws too.

If I expect him to listen when I yell. Then I should listen when he yells too.

I don't have to like / love it but I shouldn't resist it.

Not sure whether it's a 'fair code' or a 'moral code'. But 'I' have 'chosen' to live like that.
N it truly helps to live peacefully n have a clear, guilt-free mind than some friends (men n women) who are ok for them to have affairs, but their spouses can't. And that's being selfish n hypocrites.

But again, not all are like that!

 

I disagree with you. What you mentioned above both , are not the reasons for affairs.

With men even with very very beautiful and attractive wives too they start affair with some other woman based on Novelty and Variety. When caught by the wifeall they say is," look , I love you. I never found you less attractive but the Novelty with the other girl made me have an affair with her. The reason why I had affair with her has nothing to do with you".

With woman even with very handsome and successful husbands, who look very attractive, the woman develops affair with a less attractive second man, simply because the emotional attention paid by the second man is more abundant than her husband.

So, the reasons for men is Novelty and variety and the reasons for affair for women is emotional attention.

It has nothing to do with attractiveness.