Here's what's happening. My cousin's daughter has come to USA for studying masters. I live in the same city, Great. Family visits are always fun. This cousin and I have never spoken for 20+ yrs. We barely met in common family weddings, thats it. We have an age diff of 15yrs . This kid is 24yrs old and I seeing some shocking selfish behaviors. 1) She would wake up late and then offer to help with cooking. By the time she wakes up I would have finished cooking and logged in for my work. -> Should I politely refuse or make her chop tomorrow's vegetables when she's offering to help ? 2) She lives near college, so comes over during weekends. when its time to drop her back to her dorm, she would refuse to go on sunday evening and request a drop on Monday morning. But I have work on Monday and generally rush-hour traffic on monday would result in 2.5hrs for me to drop her . Its not like she doesnt know about traffic ,she comes from indian city and has seen enough traffic. -> I would expect her to say pls drop me when its convenient , dont want to bother you. But its the other way around. She has got a campus job etc, I'm not expecting her to spend anything for us etc. those are totally fine, she's a student. But this sort of behavior demanding stuff without considering other's schedule seems selfish to me. Is this entitled behavior ? Should I be more assertive to her ? I'm trying not to sound rude but she's being unbelievable.