In all the years of my performing this puja I have not come across this. The story mentions Charumati’s wonderful dream, she awakens and can’t wait to share it with everyone. In the morning she tells everyone - family members, her neighbors and relatives - about her dream. (all are mentioned together in one breath, no separate singling out.) They exclaim in wonder and resolve that they too will do the puja. They all await the second Friday of Sravana Masam with great eagerness… I have transcribed the above verbatim from my tape. The book too says the same. No mention of any dialogue where she requests permission from her in laws nor of in-laws granting permission. Nor do I recall ever hearing of this. This must be your family tradition and more power to you for doing so. In the puja vidhanam there is no such instruction by the priest to touch husband’s feet. What you choose to do, out of sentiment or your personal family tradition, cannot be ascribed to the puja and then call it patriarchy, in my opinion. In contrast the husband plays pivotal role in the KC fast. He alone is supposed has to give her the water to break her fast. She has to see his face in the colander after viewing the moon before that. I have seen many mawkish B grade Hindi movies which exploit this point to create drama.