I have ask more, what do you mean they are utilizing more. sometimes, these general statements lead to whole new perception. do you mean they are making you work all the time . do you work or home maker. i work so any time my IL or parents are here, i am too happy. some where safe where kids are taken care if i am late. i would suggest focused questions. if they are making you work all the time , that is not good . you need to talk to dh. kids activity is different.