anyone remembered their first days with new co-sister?

I love these cosis threads too!

As the elder DIL who came into the family after the younger one, I can tell you some things that put cosis No.2 off:

- Making it seem like she is the new "guest" while you act all pally with MIL and BIL. Trying to make the new person comfortable is one thing, and trying to show her that "this is my territory" is another.

- Waiting for her to initiate all communication because she is No.2:notthatway:

- Routing stuff through MIL. Ex: My cosis would never call me (I was the one who always called) but if she wanted to know when I was reaching India, leaving and other details, she would find out from MIL.
I wonder why she could not just shoot me a mail or a message?
MIL would then go "wow she cares so much about you!"whaatsmiley

- I do not think gifting too much is a good idea. Been there, done that. Unless you know for sure where you stand with her, do not invest too much emotion or gifts else you will end up feeling used.

HTH.