Any Primary Breadwinners?

Since it is for couple of years has your H considered finding a job ? I think the way your thinking is not right. You made joint decision now his mom is helping him.Why are you fuming for this ? what is bothering you ?

 

Firstly you should be happy for getting such a wonderful husband who takes care of home and kid . Since it was a joint decision why should you feel bad ?
And since your mil does all the work now then why bother ?? Infact you should be happy since they are respecting your decision and allowing you to work fulltime . Just imagine if both of them had to work and without inlaws you had to struggle at both the places . But now it’s only work .And wat if you had typical MIL who expects DIL to cook inspite of working ?
I feel you are jealous of your husband , like some men feel the same when they are the sole breadwinners and if wife is SAHM!

 

May be since your MIL is there she is not wanting your DH to do thinks like cooking , cleaning etc.

 

Since it’s a temporary move , I say don’t fret about it . If everything is going fine on the home front and you are able to pursue our career , why rock the boat ? It doesn’t matter who cooks , cleans or who does what chores as long as a) your household is being managed while you are at work b) your kid is getting good care .
In Indian setup , it’s rare that a mom will ever let her son do anything around the house .Always pick your battles wisely and focus on the bigger picture. The one thing you can ask your DH would be to take your kid for outings or give him some arts/ crafts projects at home or take him to some activity classes around . Not sure how old your kid is but if he he has some hobbies and interests , consider enrolling him in a class or have your DH teach him more .

For now , just keep it status quo if it’s a temp setup .

 

I am just replying to let you know I can very much understand what you are talking,

I don't know what was the situations at home when you and your husband came to an mutual agreement ? Is it really a mutual understanding or sort of an udjustment to lead the life smoothly. Since you said it's few years setup... what about your husbands thoughts about finding a job . ?

 

A couple of years is a long time for you to put up with this without saying anything. Since your MIL seems to be handling the home front it might be worthwhile for your husband to look for a job, and you can get domestic help to assist her. This will increase the family savings and he can always step back once they leave.