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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by MULAN, Jun 21, 2010.

  1. MULAN

    MULAN New IL'ite

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    Hi

    I have seen SMS and have certain clues that my husband is cheating me.

    Can I hire a detective to find out as I need proof.

    I don't see any other way of doing it.

    Pls advice.
     
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  2. rajalakshmigopal

    rajalakshmigopal Gold IL'ite

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    Can you please explain in detail? Iam not able to get the whole picture of it.Hold on about hiring a detective!
     
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    Priya_Mommy Gold IL'ite

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    Mulan,
    If you are sure that your husband is cheating you, why dont you ask him directly???Trust is the major factor that helps in building a married life.
     
  4. MULAN

    MULAN New IL'ite

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    Hi

    the point is I asked he says he does not want to talk about anything.

    He just ignores me.
     
  5. MULAN

    MULAN New IL'ite

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    Hi

    thanks for your prompt response.

    We are married for the past 15 years. From day one he is very secretive. Only god knows how i had two children. he used to come just for that and leave me alone. Never talks to me.

    I have kept quiet for children sake, now when i saw his SMS and also he lies a lot. I am so confused. I decided to talk to him and requested we sit but he refuses, saying he does not have anything to speak.

    I am so helpless, what do i do?
     
  6. flowerlady

    flowerlady IL Hall of Fame

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    Find out who is sending those smses by typing number on google. Hope you know his friends , they may slip out some evidence.
    I can understand how you feel , people who lie get caught in their own trap , just have patience. Ignore him and develop your own interests, sooner or later the cat will be out of the bag.
    Treat him the way he treats you.
     
  7. Rakhii

    Rakhii Moderator IL Hall of Fame

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    were the messages intimate or was it a general one from a lady? How sure are you about this?
    Getting a detective and all doesn't sound too practical for me. If he turns out to be innocent, he is going to be fuming at you for doubting him, I would if someone hires a detective.

    Being secretive has become a habit for him in 15 years, looks like. Anyway you can try and break that habit.
     
  8. MULAN

    MULAN New IL'ite

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    Hi

    Yes the SMS were intimate, EG:
    I had a great time, hope we have some more.
    I have never enjoyed like this before.
    Let us meet often.

    Bills of boat trips in gardens.

    etc.

    Also he never takes calls in front of me,
     
  9. flowerlady

    flowerlady IL Hall of Fame

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    Pretty intimate ! Cannot be called official by any chance.
    Copy down the phone number and find out who she is. Talk to your DH about the boat tickets and smes and he should spill the beans.
    Be prepared to hear a stupid story or for the worst. Maybe he is having a fling , middle aged men do such silly things and he must know that he is caught.
    Dont delay this and waste time.
    Are you working or a stay at home wife. Any kids ?
     
  10. MULAN

    MULAN New IL'ite

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    Hi

    I work and manage the house. he is earning only to match his requirements.

    I am not depended on him financially, physically, emotionally or anything. Yes two kids.
     

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