Annoying DH's habit :( Suggestions needed !!

Tell him frankly it is very immature of him, to run to parents with every small things. Is he a 3yr old or what? Ask him to grow up and be a man.

Other thing, tell your parents about this habit of his and ask them not to worry about his calls so much. My husband used to think the same. But my mom put him right the first time he called her. She just got irritated and told him bluntly not to come to them for such small things. She assured that if big problems arise between us, my parents will always be there for us. But won't entertain any petty matters. Maybe its time your parents tells your husband the same.

As for his going to your in-laws, I guess you cannot help much with it. Try to make them understand that it is childish of their son to do so. And if MIL says something to you over it, just tell her that its matter between you and your husband and you two will sort it out yourself.

 

I think this is were the problem lies,you give in easily to him.I mean every time you behave normal with him after he blabbers,he faces no consequences for his actions.He thinks its no big deal,you are going to be ok the next day so he has no regrets.When "talking and making him understand" doesn't work show it your actions.Make him pay,don't talk to him unless he genuinely apologizes and promises not to repeat it.Tell your Il's lightly not to worry,its just a small fight.We will resolve it soon.And chat with them nicely,divert the topic all the while ignoring your Dh. Ask your parents not to encourage his complaints like let them say"Its not nice if we meddle in your problems.You both are grown ups,resolve it yourself."Inform your folks about his nature and tell them it will only get worse if they listen to him and try to solve it.

 

hELLO Frnd, tell ur husbnad to be grown up man. he is behaving like childish. do one thing, next time he call ur parents or his parents, ask him to do a meeting with u also. so that he is not projecting in bad side.

 

Ask him this: Does he run to his dad when he is hurt by his manager or co-workers in his office? Does he run to his mom if someone screams at him while driving in traffic? Will he run to his dad when a grocer sells him a bad apple? Does he run to his mom when bank refuses to sanction his loan or demands his bills or EMI?

How does he handles these situations? Does his mom goes and scolds his manager for not giving him expected performance review? Does his dad meets his company's client's to scold them for giving tight deadlines?

Hope you got my drift......

 

Leaving the fight apart... whenever he is in happy mood with you and does anything for you.... call your /his parents and inform them of every minor things he does for you....

he takes you out for drive... call your/his mom
he orders your fav dish....call...
he buys you something.....call ...
he is in romantic mood.... call again... and so on....

let him realise how irritiatting and immature it is to share personal stuff.....

 

Talking to him about it, is not going to work as there is a chance of him discussing the very issue with other. Try being the first one to complain about him. He might come to his senses after 3 or 4 such sessions.

 

If this happened with me, this is what I would have done...
After we fought, I would have made a snide remark and tease him boldly - Don't you want to go run crying to your mom ?

It will provoke major fight at that time but sometimes you have to take that risk for the point to sink in. Stop pleading to him and do away with this issue at one time. He is being a baby and you need to make him realize this harshly.

My husband never jumped at sharing our matters to his mom, although sometimes he does but never fights. But his mom when sees either of us in bad mood, questions and wants to resolve it. She does it with her relatives too. She wants to support one partner, preach the other one and make things ok. This pisses me off. Once I clearly told her - This is between me and him. Just her saying that its ok, things happen does not make things allright between us. We are adults and can deal with things on our own. If he was not ready to deal with marriage, he should have stayed single. I don't come asking you or dad about your personal difference and you should never expect me to either.