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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by ATI, Dec 5, 2020.

  1. ATI

    ATI Silver IL'ite

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    Grrrr - my DH has booked his parents ticket so they come here the day before our wedding anniversary!!!! I had arranged with my sister to take care of the kids on the day of our anniversary so DH and I could get takeout and have a nice dinner at home since we can’t go out anywhere. He didn’t even think or consider our anniversary and now says kids can’t go to my sister’s house because his parents would have just come here and will want to be with the kids. And ILs won’t help so basically I will be doing all the usual work on my anniversary. We can’t eat out because ILs are old and high risk for covid,

    I was so annoyed I decided not to do anything for our anniversary. If he didn’t want to celebrate why should I dress up and arrange for a nice dinner etc. But my sweet sister has gone and rearranged her plans for an earlier weekend so she can take the kids then and we can celebrate our anniversary before ILs get here. She understands how I would feel and DH couldn’t careless. He says what’s the big deal we will eat with my parents. And now he is super happy my sister is doing this because he thinks it will make him look good . He can tell everyone we had a nice kids free weekend. I don’t want to hang out with him and I don’t want to celebrate our anniversary anymore. I am so so mad. I am not going to get him anything . Since our anniversary isn’t a big deal he doesn’t get a gift

    I am so annoyed.

    That’s it that’s my vent
     
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  2. Rihana

    Rihana IL Hall of Fame

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    Leave the kids with him and go spend that earlier weekend day with the sweet sister. That is what I would do.
     
  3. AppuMom

    AppuMom Silver IL'ite

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    Enjoy girls only celebration with your sis ..:)
     
  4. MalStrom

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    Exactly. Go enjoy with your sister.
    And good luck with in-laws coming here while Covid is spreading like wildfire. They are old and high-risk for going out to eat but not for traveling across 2 continents? I hope no one regrets their decisions.
     
  5. hermitcrab

    hermitcrab Platinum IL'ite

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    Yes, why traveling in this time?!
    Covid is more of a worry for you.
     
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  6. Nuzhath

    Nuzhath Silver IL'ite

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    Vent away. The DH may be a grump as far as anniversaries are concerned. Usually - any trait skips a generation. :)
    I am thinking yr ILs may not be so grumpy. So, I think u can vent on your ILs and they may just agree with you that their son is a grump about this.
    Have fun!
     
  7. AppuMom

    AppuMom Silver IL'ite

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    Forgot to add ...buy a grand gift for yourself..be it new dress or watch or jewellery ..dress up well and enjoy with your sis...
     
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    Sreevidyaa Silver IL'ite

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    I am sorry to hear that your husband is such a selfish person. He is trying to force things on you by bringing his parents in the midst of covid which is more stressful for you all. I don’t think you being angry and not wanting to celebrate it with him is wrong. Just show it on his face. Do not accept your sister’s offer but just spend time with your kids alone. Why would anyone want to be so callous in a pandemic situation? It’s because of such behaviours that people are dying. I can’t understand them at all. Let him do all the service he wants to do for his parents. Why does he expect you to serve them when he doesn’t care about your feelings at all.
     
  9. Janakinarne

    Janakinarne Silver IL'ite

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    Take the kids wth u and go to ur sis home and enjoy for few days later u may not get the time to enjoy peacefully ,u may frustate wth the wrks so take a break and fresh ur mind and body..men’s never care for anniversaries or birthdays,they thought it’s one more normal day ,but if u cook at wil eat and go..don’t expect anything frm him..enjoy itself ..happy anniversary..
     
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  10. shravs3

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    Haha this is the best :laughing:
     

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