Dear Riya, I read your anger and fraustration towards your In-Laws and the support of your hubby towards you during your crunch period. I read all the replies of our ILites and I wanted to put my view regarding this in laws matter as I had never attempted this before probably, so no offense meant to anybody. From your post it is clear that your hubby had asked them to hire a maid but they denied....but my question here is why did your hubby asked everybody to even do a small thing like this, does he always ask his parents for everything he does or he has no hold over his parent's place. because keeping a maid is such a small affair in India that there should not be any hassel regarding this. Was your hubby contribute to the family expense, if not then probably your In-laws might have thought that now, they have to spend from their pocket...so might have denied to your offers........ Next thing, why didn't your hubby shift to another place nearby so as to reduce your work load. Probably you people stayed over there to minimise your expenses also and you worked like hell........ Dear, please don't take it otherwise, I have no intention to create a fight between you and your hubby, in fact your hubby might not have any idea about what he has done unknowingly. But it was not your In-Laws to blame rather your hubby was more culprit here that he could not even manage a small issue in his own house and with his own parents. Let me ask you one more question, has your hubby ever helped you in your house chores like making some snacks/dinner/tea to help you ???????? If he would have done so, then it is justified to say that he was supportive to you otherwise mere words are not always sufficient, doing something in ground is more important. I know, its really hell to work in and out for a lady and I admire you that you did all these for years, even I can't adjust all these even only with my hubby and my hubby has always to do some cooking along with me to help me out..... So, dear, please don't be angry on your In-laws...........think wisely and ask your hubby to be bold enough to cope with small issues and be helpful to you on ground.......... Regards.