analytical points on building a good relationship in marriage

Dear members,
here are some important points to build up good relationship in marriage
these are collected from books and web sites. I hope it will give some
thought to think.
Relationships
Intimacy :– close, warm, communicative experience • self-disclosure, sense of belonging
Friendship :– based on mutual interests and values – women’s friendships are more intimate – men’s friendships are less intimate
Love
Passion :•intense, physiological desire for another person –Intimacy •self- disclosure leading to connection, warmth, trust
Commitment : •staying with a person through thick and thin
Patterns of Loving
No love :–absence of all three components
Liking :–intimacy, but no commitment or passion
Infatuation :passion, but no commitment or intimacy
Empty Love :–commitment, but no intimacy or passion
Romantic Love :–intimacy and passion, but no commitment
Fatuous Love :–commitment and passion, but no intimacy
Companionate Love :–commitment and love, but no passion
Consummate Love :–commitment, intimacy, and passion
Patterns change as the partners change
Typical patterns: •passion peaks early, declines, then stabilizes •intimacy & commitment increase if relationship is satisfying
Relationships
Cross-cultural similarities
–Men prefer physically attractive women
–Women prefer industrious & ambitious men
•Social evolution theory explains this as part of our evolutionary history
•Social construction theory explains this as a result of socialization into gender stereotypes
Non marital Lifestyles
• Single :– Numbers increasingostpone or avoid marriage
– More acceptance, less social pressure to marry – Most are active, secure, fulfilled
• Marriage
•Meets fundamental needs for belonging, sex, emotional growth, happiness….
•Best way for raising children
•Positively correlated with better physical, mental and financial well-being
•Differing expectations for marriage
–women expect sharing feelings and confidences
–men expect sharing activities, especially sex
Divorce
•Divorce rate highest in early adulthood
–Half of marriages end in divorce
•Characterized by high levels of conflict
–Communication problems is #1 reason
Family Life
•Becoming parents
–Desire for children is almost universal