Hi, I am a mother of a six year old girl, who is in kindergarden. Last week, there was a problem in school, in which my daughter was involved. They were in a lab where my daughter was reading a book borrowed from a friend, that belonged to the school. As she was reading it, one of her friends, came to her and asked her to put the book behind the recycle bin, and if she did not do it, she would not be her friend, and will not play with her during recess. So, fearing the fact of losing her friend, and she was the only friend with whom she played during recess, she put it right away without telling anyone. This created the problem, as the teachers were searching the book for about 45 mts, and finally came to know my daughter had hidden it. This friend who had asked her to do it, told that my daughter had put it there. The teachers were really angry, as it was a waste of time for them, and when my daughter tried to tell it once as to why she did it. It was almost end of day, and they were really angry with her and so she did not explain it that well to them fearing they were already angry. They took the 2 girls and told they have to face the consequence of it on monday and called me at the end of school day to tell about this. Immediately after their call, i spoke to my daughter and allowed her to tell me what had happened. She was crying all throughout when she told me this, and she was worried she would not have any friend to play with and did it. I explained her that what she did was wrong and should have told the teacher right away, and it has got her a bad name and also waste of time for the teachers. I spoke to her all through the weekend advising her, and also mailed the teacher, about what i heard from her, and apologised, and told her she is not that kind of a kid, and she understood that what she did was wrong. A little background about us, we are Indians,come a very orthodox, god fearing family, and as a mother i felt so bad for my daughter for having to get to such a name in just the first year of school, and she is not that kind of a kid too. The friend i mentioned here is of a different race, which i do not want to go into. Please do not mistake me as being racist,i am just providing that for information. Do they treat kids differently because we do not belong to this country? This happened on Friday, and this morning, i got a call from the school principal saying about what she did and they spoke to her and told me that this time there would be no consequence, but if something happens again there would be consequences. I understand what my daughter did was wrong, but was not done intentionally and due to immaturity and insecure feeling of a 6 year old. I am feeling bad as a mother due to calls about my daughter from the teacher, principal. Do you think this is how they deal with things in schools in USA? Is it not enough if the teacher addressed it? Are they stressing her by taking to principal. I am worried as she is just in kindergarden and has to continue in this school until 5th grade. Will this event cause any problems for her future years in the school. Please give me your thoughts, as this has been bothering me since the last 3 days, and feeling so bad.