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Am I silly??

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by Suhania, May 30, 2013.

  1. Irfana3300

    Irfana3300 Silver IL'ite

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    You should ask him directly. But don't be condescending, don't tell him that u think it as wrong. Just ask hw come they are so close, why he isn't that much close to the younger one. may be there is some reason. Just ask. if his answer is not reasonable u can tell him ur feelings. u cn ask "why u r treating&praising ur sister in such a way in front of all other family members. everybody will love their brother & sister but there is no need to show this love in front of public. our love & care will be in our mind. I don't feel it good. both of u may be that much attached & close, no prblm, quite natural, but don't show such acts (hugs & kisses) especially in front of others".....Just try....
     
  2. ShilpaMa

    ShilpaMa IL Hall of Fame

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    Ur H is full of PDA, hence u also find him very caring and loving types... and he's extending this PDA to you that was already existing for his sis and or parents.. who may be married now and with kids.

    If you correct him now.... am not sure if it will be a conditional or blanket correction......... you may miss his original self soon.........

    A kiss and hug to a spouse/mom/dad/sis/bro is with a very different feeling and angle.... there's nothing to worry... u just need to raise ur acceptable PDA levels.
     
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  3. BharatS

    BharatS Gold IL'ite

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    I am actually close to my elder sister, the age gap between me and her is 12 years. And being the last kid, i was raised by her more than my mom. That could be the case with your husband too. 15 years into the marriage and by your own confession, your husband loves you more than you do him.

    Why this insecurity. Just chill out and nothing to take serious
     
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  4. Suhania

    Suhania Senior IL'ite

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    Thanks all for your advice / replies
    The age difference between them is only 3 years....
     
  5. daffny

    daffny Silver IL'ite

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    hi friend. dont worry, I have seen in many families the elder daughters being more responsible and taking care of the other siblings more like a mother. so the other siblings love her like a mother only. age difference is not a problem here. if the age problem is small they would have grown together sharing all their wishes,future plans, family issues ...etc. they know all in the entire life of each other and so, they always feel comfortable in sharing all the issues even after marriage.how they were brought up, what dreams/expectations they had about future, how much they were able to make out,....etc they like to share. if the mother is not there in the family then all the siblings depend the eldest sister more like this.
     
  6. sacredbell

    sacredbell Silver IL'ite

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    In a married life, everyone should get their own space. DH might have had a motherly relationship with his elder sister..There is nothing wrong in hugging and expressing his feelings to his siblings..don't put him in a cage with an emotional interlock..

    I would have concerned, if DH would have hugged 'your' sisters and tell the same things..:)..
     
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  7. Rakhii

    Rakhii Moderator IL Hall of Fame

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    I personally dont see anything wrong at all in hugging and a kiss. You say, kissing as in a peck on the cheek kinds right? If yes..nothing wrong at all and you are over thinking this.
     
  8. pm86

    pm86 Silver IL'ite

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    Even my husband used to hug and kiss on the cheek of his cousin sister. They tease each other with their legs. Since he was not loving towards me I felt odd.

    I think you should discuss with your husband when you both are in good mood. If he loves you he will not ignore what you say.
     
  9. uma321

    uma321 Platinum IL'ite

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    OP,

    My brother and I hug/kiss on the cheek when i'm leaving/coming to India. I don't see anything wrong with hugging/kissing your sibling if you're very close. Again, I do the same with my parents too. we're quite touchy people, you know :)
     
  10. Mahajanpragati

    Mahajanpragati Platinum IL'ite

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    there must be only 2-3 get togethers a year so I think for sake of keeping peace in life its better to ignore it.
     

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