Our marriage is love and arranged.We both are from the middle class or may be a upper middle class family. He has been working from last 9 years as a software engineer in a reputed MNC. He is an intelligent person and he scored district mark in his 12th standard and though it was difficult for his parents to send him out of state financially, they still managed to send him to the best college with education loan and schlorship. After his engineering, he joined for work.From the first month he started giving his entire salary to his parents except keeping something for his survival. He even went abroad for 2 years and given nearly 1 Lac every month to them thinking they will save for him. But when he returned back, there was nothing called savings except some gold. They forced him to get them a car before even having house, still he got it without saying no. He gave full amount to pay the car, but they didn't. Instead, they paid half and put loan on his name. He paid that too. After completing car loan, his dad forced him to get 7 lac loan for him to put it in commodity, my spouse was not at all okay for getting loan, but he trust his mother a lot. She too told, get it seems, then he got the loan and gave everything but all failed and lost that entire amount. Then his sister portion. He was about to return from abroad, that time we were in relationship. SIL ntroduced her boyfriend in-home and just before 10 days from his arrival, her engagement was done and marraige got fixed. My spouse parents agreed to pay all expense comes for marriage and put 320grams gold her. When he returned, he realised there is no money called savings and what they have is 350 grams gold that to for 3 Lacs in bank. His sister started earning but didn't give single penny to home. On the second month she started earning, she decisde to get married. My husband again got loan of 4 Lacs and his dad got 3lac loan ( he doesn't work,that is also paid by my husband later). SIL got married and didnt talk to anyone after marriage for another three months as her in laws expectation was getting 400 grams gold and bike. So, as of 2016 he is left with 14 lac loan, no savings,no house and already 30.With all this debt and again monthly he has to give 20k to parents as they do not earn with the salary of 67k in India. I was already 26 that time and my parents started looking for a marriage. They knew partially he has debt and no house. But the agreed for marriage and finally did our engagement in December 2016. His sister didn't come for our engagement. For engagement, his parents disndi give single penny and he borrowed from friends for that. Then god's grace we have got US visa, and in 2017 may we have got married and he traveled to usa. For marriage also his sister didn't come and his parents gave no money, he again got personal loan for mangal sutra and cloths. His parents didn't save 1 gram gold for him. His sister used to tell her husband and her in laws telling not to speak, so she didn't speak and come for her bro marriage who made her study masters when he is just bachelor and gave all his money to her. He came US and I was there in India serving notice period.Before travelling US, we both went and met his sister, she was 8 month carrying. Then after a month, in June she called her dad and told there is a problem at home and come and take me from here. They went and got her to home, I took WFH and stayed with them until her delivery. For the delivery, it was 1 lac(ceaserian and metropolitan city) , and sil insisted through her mother to pay, she told her mother that, if you don't pay, they will never come close. Exactly after our marriage, his first salary in US went to her delivery. After that, she stayed with parents in native for 6 months and went back. For that 6 month also, her husband didn't give single penny and she had around 20k as savings. Okay, all done, I am with spouse here in US, and his parents wants 50k monthly. He is trying to close all loan one by one. Now, suggest me what and who has a problem here?