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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by EagerForInfo, Aug 15, 2021.

  1. mangaii

    mangaii Platinum IL'ite

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    @EagerForInfo you are one strong women to go out and get a job in this situation. When I saw your post about investment and savings I was happy for you even though I don’t even know you. I’m sure these testing times will make you stronger to help you make a better decision. Good luck
     
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    No. They may not become an abuser.
    But kids brought up in abusive families do suffer from lots of psychological damage. Atleast kids here can get counseling through school.

    I personally know people who grew up in dysfunctional families where dad and mom were constantly fighting. They used to say,they would have been more happy if the parents had divorced.
     
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    Of course we in this forum can only guide OP.
    It's her life and she will do what's best for her and kids.
     
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    This is a very wrong example and please do not quote like that . Lakshmi madam. I have seen first hand how much a person can get affected when living with a narcisistic manipulative abuser. they became really confused with the push and pull love displayed. it is not something a rational mind can perceive. they question their own questions.

    It is very easy to find faults online. but the victim who goes through that has a whole different setup of damage happened inside. One moment they are strong and next moment they collapse.

    OP needs help from a 3 person or needs counselling (especially clinical where they can give light SSRI based meds). I have seen how it affects to my close friends and how they could recover without help but with light meds then could take a solid action
     
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    Didn't we all suggest this previously in this thread. OP said its like bandaid on a wound. Doesn't solve the actual problem.

    Many ways to seek counseling were given to her.
    She was asked to approach her parents till her brain figures out everything.
    Everyone was kind to her even when she was angry and accusing the posters of doing nothing in life Other than watching TV.
     
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    Just an update. My husband quit his job it seems. At least one clue to his weird behavior. Hopefully there is light at the end of the tunnel if he gets a job he likes.
     
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    If
     
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    Not a great time to be voluntarily quitting jobs.
     
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    But he has told me that since the day we got married that he doesn’t like 9-5 jobs. Then what does he want ? Just because he doesn’t want to do a 9-5 job just like a kid who doesn’t want to go to school u cannot do that ? I thought he was kidding me. He always says he wants to stay home while I work.
     
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    Why do u say that ? Is it hard to get another job now. ? But I don’t think he even has plans to get another job.
     

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