Let me start with a disclaimer that this is not a " I have a problem" thread. It was a very casual conversation that got me thinking and I wanted all your inputs too. Setting : I am casually browsing through TV Channels when I get distracted by a phone text. I pause browsing and pay attention to the text. I don't realize that I've landed on a a Malayalam channel and one of its staple "TV Serial" is running on it. Since the TV serial intrigues me a bit, I decide to stay a bit and watch. Husband casually Plops on the couch beside me. Scene on the TV : Guy (I understood that he is the eldest of the three brothers) is sitting reading newspaper on the dining table, youngest brother (probably a teen or college kid) walks in and clearly some tension going on between the two. The teen asks particularly to no one " Is there no breakfast or chai today?" Elder DIL (dutiful, submissive, probably apple of everyone's eyes), comes running and says "Oh are you already at the table waiting? I just finished my morning bath, I am so sorry- let me go get your chai" . Elder brother is clearly irritated and impatient both h with wife and his younger brother, when another DIL( wife of the second brother who is not in the scene) whose hand is all bandaged (don't ask me the story , I have NO IDEA) comes in with a tray of chai . Elder DIL's eyes tear up with pride, says "oh. I am so happy you are taking care of the household. Even if I am not around, now I am sure this family has someone around who will take care of them". And that was it, I could watch no further. I let out an exasperated sigh and ask (to particularly no one) "So a grown man and a teenager cannot go into the kitchen and make their own chai? An injured DIL needs to do seva? THIS IS WHY OUR SOCIETY WILL NEVER IMPROVE" And my husband casually quips, "Well , you have a problem with that scene because you are a feminist. For a normal Indian housewife, this scene would not be such a trigger like it is for you". Boom! Mic Drop! Am I a feminist? In this day and age, why are our TV Serials so backward? Or is it just me? Am i not a "normal" Indian housewife? Any fellow "Abnormals"?