All Time Cranky Toddler? What To Do?

OP,

I understand the hell both your child and you are going through. Constant itching can bring out the worst in anyone and I hope you have explored all the medical/ food options. Your husband is diverting him from his irritations! Yes, he needs a lot of diversion.

Try something to soothe his mind like reiki, hypnotherapy, psychotherapy etc. Maybe one of them relieves and soothes him. While I do understand your issues, my heart goes out to the little one. It will be difficult for him to follow the rules and regulations while missing out on the wonderful company of friends and living such restricted life and also suffering constant irritation and disturbed sleep. Hope he sleeps in an ac room!

 

I am so sorry for what you and the son are going through. If I were you I would try to rule out if his crankiness is because of being in discomfort or any other issue. I do not mean to add to your worries but there has been a focus on Atopic dermatitis and ADHD or ASD in kids. Please rule this out soon so you can then focus on how to discipline him effectively.

 

How about having some kids(even elder kids) come over to ur house and play with him.

See if each set of grand parents stay 3 months at a time. So he will have company.

If ur tired n busy. Let him watch TV couple of hours. In USA winter time my kid ends up watching 4hrs TV also can't help(not stretch through out day)

Just lye down with him noon n read stories, so both can get rest n calm time

My 3yrs expects me to sit n play with him all the time. Also as you say for brushing bathing going potty eating everything I have to kajole him n go in his way and get it done . If I am tired n try to b strict he just does opposite of what I say/want.

Take care of your pregnancy. Hope this phase pass soon and he recovers

 

Take care, these are trying times; they call for all your reserves. If possible seek some help from anybody close to you so that even you get a little respite in between.

 

Hi OP
I feel sorry for you. I am similar phase. My kid is of same age and not scared or listen to me and orders me but completely follows H. My H is not good in talking/speaking outside in public like you said yours is, but he is for my kid. He is like saint for my kid or may be he pampers her with stupid toys or junk that is why and i try to be disciplinary at home.
Same is with you.
Regarding other disorders, check with doc once, if doctor says all is normal behaviour at that age, then may be it is as I said my kid is also like this and I hear at 5 yr they calm a bit.
In your case, may be itching or discomfort is making it worse.

Also, do you know heat or hot weather or sweat increases the itching? so try to keep him in cool place.

 

Reesha,
There seem to 2 issues here - the eczema and then the parenting. The two are separate so suggest you deal each separately.

For dermatitis yes what doc said is true there is no cure. But there are 100’s of palliatives, home remedies, tricks which moms have figured out to reduce the frequency of the outbreak calm the itching etc. you should google for that. This is very common condition and many people have it so there is lots of information out there in blogs etc. Just from the people around me mentioning I heard the kids diet helps, gluten free helps, wearing all cotton helps (many kids clothes are polyester or some blend of cotton) etc. if a person like me who has no knowledge has heard all this then am sure if you google and research and look into it you will get lots of tips which you can use to help your Lo.

Secondly parenting issue. Partly it may be in your head - do you feel pity as he is suffering so much so you are giving him a pass when he misbehaves? Or being not so strict? I don’t know but you chk that once. It is natural mother’s reaction but as you see it is backfiring now. Kids benefit from clear boundaries and it is up to us to set them and enforce. Behavior has nothing to do with dermatitis so keep it separate and treat him like regular kids.
Bye

 

You may be already doing this, but want to check. Are u using any good quality moisturizing lotion on daily basis once or twice without fail? Good moisturizing lotion with time release technology applied immediately after bath helps with dry skin itching. Since Indian climate is warm, Indian skin type don't need very good quality. So the moisturizing lotions available in India may not be good enough for very dry itching skin. In US/Canada since the climate is different, there are few good lotions like Lubriderm with time release technology. If you have any relatives/friends here please try to get and use. Apply good quantity of lotion.

 

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