All is well ! DH back !!

Flowerlady , So it is you the bravo who tied the bell.I am sure is something which boils within everyone but could not put it in a proper way.

To me life seem to be all bed of roses as of now but I always know that anytime down the line this can happen.

This is something the wife was made to believe by the selfish , immoral husband and in-laws.Even if the wife has done something wrong , where did his morale go?Why should he choose another woman?When the men say they are the stronger sex why can't they stay alone STRONG.And on top of all this there is one sect who says MEN ARE WIRED THIS WAY.HUH..:rant

Well said.And I would like to add one more thing.Pregnancy.It is a natural process and it brings out some(Major!) changes in women's body.Again here the men say that my wife does not look great any more.

I had the same questions.Let us see what our other ILs have to say.My answer would be probably our society is made in a way that it is easier for men in the society to get married than the women.And women prev were not independent and had to always be at their mercy saying "Natha ..En mel pizhai irunthaal mannithu vidungal.Ini ungalukku piditha maathiri tharai vizhuthe pani purigiren":rant:biglaugh(meaning - lord,I will change myself and do whatever you want)...

You have said it,FL!

 

I think people are not replying because they are not sure what to say . I am not replying because I will really make this as a general discussion, and move far from EMA. To me this stems right from the fact that only a woman is called a prostitute, and no name is given to the man who makes her that. I would delve only into such aspects, and not be able to speak from a wife's PoV. I will report this thread, and seek mod action on it.

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Flowerlady,

Whats your take on the "women/wife" involved in a EMA?

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Not wrong at all, as long as it is relevant to the topic of the thread, here EMA. Else, start a new thread for the same.

Btw, there are already some hey howdy discussion threads in IL. A simple search will give you the list.

-Lakshmi

 

And no, I am not interested to knowing about the women in a EMA, because it has been a long time that we stopped talking on the women involved in a relationship. My question to you, was in no demeaning manner to side line the woman, or to talk against her. I only wanted to know how she is being looked at.


Cheers
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Sorry no man made her sell her body for money. It's your body and only you control it, yeah? Ofcourse there are cases of women/girls being tortured into this business, but that's not the entire bunch.

 

Nandhu,

It is my body, and I can control it. But, thats just me. Not the case with most prostitutes. A man makes a prostitute. She is no longer called that, when a man stops visiting her.

Even if a woman becomes a prostitute by choice, there is no term to name the straying man. At situations, when he has a wife and still goes to a prostitute, what is he called? Is there a term for him, in any language?

Also, most importantly - even a prostitute, most times in places like India does not have control over her body. She is not protected, or governed. So, if a man takes her to a room, and burns her with cigarette butts or whips her - there is simply no control she can exercise.

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