Advice please

thanks a lot dear
i never speak about my in law to him becoz, once i said so, that in law complaints she has mental tensions becoz of me then his immediate response was she is not like that and all the time she asks me to look after you.............
they dont talk in the house , only on drive to office.she is a wicked acting woman
yeah , i should find a job only concern now
but thing is his words always revolve
some nasty words , i might have clicked u , ur father , mother out of the house.............
control language and words but he can use this filthy language and he is good and myself and my parents are bad as they ask questions.it was only once they asked about his brother and even now my parents respect him and say u got to know his mind set so have to move accordingly
but this guy is tough.
when in india , i was not liking to come back with him , he bought me here and today left alone, dying to talk atleast

 

hates becoz of no reason , i believe
first thing after marriage he said was i think all are different in ur house expect ur father........ I was shocked who gave a wrong notion to u as he was in US at that time
slowly things changed, u r rich ........... i dont have any
but well to do family whatever it is today
as i mentioned earlier, becoz my father asked abt his brother that was wrong it seems
so my father , touched his feet thinking he will satisfy now and look after his daughter happily
but poor dad never knew, this guy is stupid as of today also repeats the things and says u supported ur father and made by honour ruin in the family
his words and doing ..........
he is ashamed that people will know but not knowing he should not do that

 

u are correct
I hate that touching feet
but this guy was very irritating and did not allow me to visit my parents , I was with him for 15 months and 1 visit
all this drama
they thought, we have to be good also and they did that, all in fraction of seconds........
but his ego is not yet satisfied even today
the talk and words he use make we feel i am in a gutter
my father in a elderly person, who has a name in my town and people respect him
this guy says that fellow, this ........
I always remind to mind the language
funny thing is again he wants , every one to assemble and wants to talk to them before all, but I should not say anything itseems
he is ashamed to his own acts, but not understanding that he has to change his own attitude
says I am not against ur parents but does all this stuff
he simply yells, and I hate to speak anything
I should be independent
he feels only his parents are great and I landed from air without parents
was saying , if u want to look after ur parents, i cant run after u
dont understand why this came, and thank God that situation did not and should not arise.
as parents , and as a daughter I will see
he wants to look after his parents and keep aside mine
there is no matter , in his talk only illusions

 

1 yr he was ok, i used to say what mum talked and all........but later he stopped asking and says after 6 months he started doubt, I ask what good reason , no reply
i used to say abt our family, college, friends, but he never opened his mouth about any things. his brother used to stay with us but that idiot is also stupid , MIL used to call him and ask whether we are awake or sleeping , cooked or not...........
my DH is unaware of this and feels his mum and brother are great
I am not against his staying or anything , I always wished marriage should bring families together but now........................
from past 2 yr, I am not really happy about anything, i pray daily and think it was a good day.......... tomm.............
i am fed up with this
recently my fathers sis called me as she leaves in US. At the time of our marriage she was not talking to our family and did not attend
but recently my grand mother passed away and again they joined the family. my father introduced DH to them , but when she called , DH lifted the phone and said I dont like her calling , said to her that I was in rest room and hang the phone
i dont understand if he is not liking ,he should not interfere, but from then she never called..................
yeah, i should strengthen myself now

 

yeah, my parents are really concerned and worried , they ask whether u are ok? they are disturbed and other side MIL asks babies and a compulsary question are u both doing good? this is a irritating ques becoz, she knew the drama and why does she ask ?
I was expecting him to change or he will know the truth that my parents are at no fault, but now i dont have any hope. yesterday also he was saying how dare they question me ? but he is not understanding his behavior is so, and they did not ask anything much also .
If I share things with my parents, its an offense now, u tell everything
I am not an idiot, have my brains and know what I should talk and not
don't know dear how life is moving?
he is paying his brothers house rent also, though he works , sends home , buys gold for mum . I don't have any objections becoz yeah he has to look after but if I miss my exam once it was a great misfortune and i am wasting his money , i am not organised or goal oriented.
I really feel sad, what life i am leading a full contrast to my earlier life before marriage
I had money, I was independent and parents gave freedom
i was not expecting same with hubby as my father but not also even a person like this