yeah, few days back even had a issue with this, every weekend my father rings him but now a days he is late home at nights becoz of business and office is shifted to new place, my father doesnot know to call so my brothers ring me for that so, my hubby was saying I am not imp to them so they ring to u ,they should ring my cell if they want to talk. I dont have a cell and not expected one also, and just unplug the phone. papam my parents doesnt know all these and they were trying it seems my hubby was stupid and was saying to me that though they know that i am in the house , why they are not ringing to cell when that is not working again, atlast they managed to call him it was a big issue, he was at home searching for a new job then , it seems that i should not let my parents know this, ofcourse his was a contract job , again started blaming u tell everything to our parents, but i said they asked casually , and i handed it u you, it was a mistake it seems again big drama
There is too much drama going on. On calling I can understand if your parents just call and talk to you and dont talk to him, he can feel bad, but here the situation is much different and much worst. He has some personality issues, if you dont mind what is the age groups of both of you He is very dominating on you.
You said you were working on your exam? Don't think of it as a waste, get the licensing done, that will help you get a job here. That is going to give you far more direction and options than sticking it out like this.
there is no question of not talking to him my father calls to talk o him first talks to him and then to me
yeah u are correct i dont think so , but often the issue of money is poking and he is not satisfied one day , he was saying that if i get a job i will change, so i need not work. then asked me whether i go against him and work , becoz if people ask he can respond. i said yes, he was upset and said i can't fund anymore next day he was telling , u work for me i am getting irriatated and more over he says i am not giving him privacy
In all your posts so far I have noticed you and your family are fair and no where unfair. This looks like a big attitude problem with your DH. He is too much controlling and dominating ....
MIL played a lot and is .......... while we were returning she said that don't tell everything to ur parents. my hubby is mum pet small issues kept cropping, from last aug but this time after india's trip everything is miserable. it seems my DH did not like ornaments which we brought for marriage. he was in US then, and main reason for not liking is becoz he thinks they are selected by my father , and wants to sells them all. he was yelling saying how will u wear them when i am not liking and MIL was seeing the drama , she was present for shopping and with every one concern and consent they were taken. My MIL , mum is an idiot old woman who controls all these things, MIL acts according to her and DH accto MIL. that lady was saying to my mum how can ur daughter useall those when my daughter is not using but most of the things were given by my mum when I came here, not even my hubby. yeah hubby dominating , with ego getting mad becoz of these things. when we went to India, before landing only hubby started saying cook , some breakfast for me and dont allow MIL to do anything. I was also new to the place, yeah I know how to behave, but he was insane in many things . If MIL used to sweep, he used to shout and tell ask her to do why are u doing all the 1 month , I used to cook and look after but still no concern about me. MIL is dramatic to do those becoz, there was a maid also. only before son she acts even washed clothes, she used to not touch and say go get ur's and fold but she used to fold everyone else one day she said to shower and come , i will make dough for chapathi and immediately after coming she said u should do ur's and eat. high drama is hubby is present and absent. I feel i am almost drowning now
Lovelydoll, there is nothing more to advice, you can vent out and unburden your feelings , and also how are you going to fight this situation now.?
LovelyDoll, It seems that your hubby is a moron. 1. Do you want to continue this marriage? (assuming your DH will not change much) 2. Are you open to the idea of a divorce? and then moving on to find a better life in whatever way that means to you? Answer this, and we can take it from there, since the suggestions that IL-ites can give will be influenced by what YOU want to do here.