Advice needed in a critical situation

Please dont turn this into a man versus woman argument!

I am not justifying her action at all. If a woman reported this about her h I would advise her to leave him, move out, be safe and divorce him. But to react like this? What happened to basic dignity? She is the mother of his kids, his wife and dependant for 8 years. He could not remember that is it? He has every right to want to end the marriage if he so chooses. But why was simply moving out and filing for divorce not even an option here? Why such an over-the-top reaction? Why could he not have done this in a civilized way? He lives in a society where 50% ppl cant get along and get a divorce. The courts dont even require a reason--'mutually irreconcilable differences' is good enough reason to grant a divorce. And yet this is the path he chooses to take. Hmmm....

 

I agree. But I think op's friend's h is the kind who want to eat his cake and keep it too. see, what was bothering me is what will he get out of doing all this? Other than watching her suffer, beg and plead.

What does Texas law say about alimony to a fully dependant housewife with no job? Plus child support for two kids. Normally if kids are that young the mother automatically gets custody at least in my state. I think he calculated it all out ( or got expert advice) and realized the potential child support and alimony will cripple him. So he decided to give her the fright of her life, as a bonus courts will declare her unfit and grant him sole custody, she goes off to India or to jail --either way not his responsibility. Bringing his mom immediately to take care of the kids, who does that? -- this is a well thought out plan, not spur of the moment. OP's friend and lawyer need to prove that, or threaten to prove that and make him come to the table.

May be I am wrong, but I feel it is worth it to OP's friend to ask the lawyer about the ramifications of this.

 

OP, tell her that law is not emotional. It just goes by the data. The more data she provides the lawyer, the more help the lawyer can give her. She should not judge how minute the data is. Include everything. If the husband has asked her for dowry (directly or indirectly) inform the lawyer. Any incidence of pinching, hurting, forced IC, verbal or physical abuse should be noted and reported to the lawyer. Was this an arranged marriage or a love marriage? Can elders people in either family help to resolve the issue?

 

What a cunning move by the husband. My heart goes for your friend. I can only say that she has to be very very careful while speaking to lawyers, her h and in the court.

May god bless her to be united with her kids and husband again. She must not loose her kids.

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Your friend has unfortunately landed in a serious pickle. Regardless of her husband's role, she will be branded the attacker since she brandished a butter knife. It is sad that she let herself be goaded into doing this, but it's done.
She will need very good legal representation, especially since her husband has turned hostile. If she is on a temporary visa or even a green card, her ability to stay in the US could be in jeopardy.
Tell her to wake up, smell the coffee and act smart, for her own sake.