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Acceptance - Not Affected By -ve Results

Discussion in 'Fertility & Trying to Conceive' started by Meghaa, Aug 2, 2019.

  1. Meghaa

    Meghaa Silver IL'ite

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    Hi All,

    I am an infertility veteran - 7 years , 2 miscarriages ( I wont count anything else.. since its too many)

    Anyhow - today My HCG test came back negative. Both of us are going about our day as if nothing happened. Even before the test results - we were very neutral... no hopes or fears.

    I am surprised and happy about our 'acceptance' :)

    Anyone else out there who is like this?
     
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  2. Anusha2917

    Anusha2917 IL Hall of Fame

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    I understand your acceptance. With 7 years struggle we become so resilient that it no longer affects us.
    However Meghaa , while acceptance is a sign of strength, grieving is not sign of weakness . Don't bundle up those emotions inside you. I'm glad you wrote here and it came out of your mind. :)
     
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  3. anika987

    anika987 Finest Post Winner

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    I was like this...relaxing is very important for your body.

    Once you are neutral ,it is good.You are more calmer and your body will be more accepting.

    Eat right,get fit and pray god.Everything will go right and positive at the right time.

    God bless you and good things will
    Happen soon
     
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    blissfull Silver IL'ite

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    Sailing in the same boat Dear@meghaa.
    May be experiences thought us the Acceptance :). Lets wait and hope for Good.
     
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  5. Meghaa

    Meghaa Silver IL'ite

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    I am numb... I think? Things arent ok at work either.
     
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    See I will tell my case. I have a job which is going extremely well. But at some point when I was kind of lost with work and this fertility issues I decided to take a break from job. Whether I will conceive I don't know but at least I can relax. I have given my best to balance both all these years . But no it didn't work.

    I tell myself
    1) It's okay if I don't do big in career.
    2) It's okay if I can't control everything around me.
    3) It's okay if others point how I am ruining my job because of these treatments.
    4) It's okay if other's judge me in whatever way they want.
    5) Lots and lots of It's okay.

    All I want is I WANT TO PAUSE AND RELAX.

    All I want to say is when you feel worked up with your job and personal life IT IS COMPLETELY OKAY.
    Take a pause and relax.
     
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    Ramyarc Silver IL'ite

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    Agree with Anusha and will add that it doesn’t mean you stop trying, it means you are letting the pressure go. I read a lot of articles where when ladies accepted their reality but kept trying nevertheless and in many cases it worked for them because they stopped worrying about it.

    So just let the pressure of the end result go but keep working towards it.
     
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    Understand that feeling Meghaa. Have been there and underwent it.
    Also your husband must be bottling up everything inside him. Please talk to him and support him.

    My sincere prayers to give you and your husband the strength, to move forward. Take care, it is not easy.
     
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    Myliltwincesses Silver IL'ite

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    Hi Meghaa

    After I read your post, I was reminded of my feelings and I thought like you only - I accepted my situation.I personally feel acceptance helps a lot.

    Infertility is like a rollercoaster ride and it's both vital and difficult to stay neutral during TTC..Acceptance helped me a lot..I hope it helps you too..

    All the best.
     
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    SGBV Finest Post Winner

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    Accept the fact that it is all scripted and planned by an eternal power. I call it God, and you may have any other words for the same.

    We are just the actors, playing the role designed and developed for us during our time here on this earth.

    I did not do anything, nor i had any knowledge or power to bear 2 children in my womb.
    In fact, I was the most careless woman with a not- so- fit body and bad lifestyle. Yet, I did not have any struggle in conceiving.

    So, there is nothing that you should feel guilt or sad or bad for not being able to bear a fruit in your womb.
    Just that, your time hasn't come.

    In movies, great things happen during the climax only. It is how the directors plan. An actor has no control over it.

    Wait for your time patiently.

    Remember, Obama retired at 55, but Trump started only after 70. Yet, both are equally glorified as American Presidents.

    Wait for your time.
     

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