Hello Friends, I am married to an extremely stubborn person for last 12 years and have a 9yr old daughter. My husband is a typical Taurean very short tempered, extremely stubborn and orthodox. He gets irritated very easily for petty little things and has the habit of blaming me for every little thing in this world. If I protest he becomes arrogant, verbally abusive and stops communicating for days together. If I try to explain, things become worse. He is very controlling and dominating by nature. At other times he is normal and caring but the moment we have a fight he is completely a different person, indifferent to everything, self-centered and violent most of the time. He shouts, breaks things in front of him, slams the door on our face and continues his temper for 15- 20 days or sometimes more than that. I naturally get disturbed by his behavior and if I try to calm him logically it becomes worse. He doesn't want to share any of my responsibility like teaching my kid or attending her and gets irritated if I tell him to help me in my household chores or share any other responsibility. Being in the US it is sometimes difficult to manage everything single handedly and his dominating nature hurts me more. I feel I am treated as a doormat and I am expected not to raise my voice against any of his behavior. He demeans me so much sometimes that I feel like going for divorce. My daughter is also suffering because of our relationship issues and I feel pity for her. He loves his daughter but whenever there is a fight he accuses me that I am responsible for all that has happened and pinpoints me even for his actions. Of late we had a fight and it was for a very simple issue as I asked him to help me as I couldn't manage so many things together. It is actually affecting my health, I get drained out completely at the end of the day. He was violent as usual and stopped communication for 8 days. I tried talking to him but he was adamant and behaved as if I have done something seriously wrong. 2 days back I tried to talk when he started comparing me with other ladies, abusing me and blaming me again. I was under a lot of stress as he also was penalizing my daughter by not talking to her as well. I was completely devastated and threw away the cup of tea that he was holding... little bit of the tea fell on his jeans and he started abusing me saying that I tried to burn him and also used very ugly slang words on me. I told him to stop but he was going on and then in that hit of the second I slapped him. He was more violent and also slapped me back and then he had no control on his words. After a day I said Sorry to him and also said that it was because he was using slang words that made me lose control over myself. He was least repentant and his still in the same form as before, I don't think I will be able to change him ever. I don't want to divorce him for the sake of my daughter but do not know what to do. I am trying hard to get a job but at times feel miserable. Please advice.