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Abusive Husband Hitting Me

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by cutebarbie, Nov 29, 2019.

  1. cutebarbie

    cutebarbie Silver IL'ite

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    Thanks dear for the suggestion but the matter is not such difficult.. I just want to know how to handle these things and sort out the issues otherwise we are a happy family.. I don’t want to hurry up and break my family.. we both r having health issues and we r struggling..
     
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    I told him that iam getting online help.. so he said he knows everything.. that’s my assumption dear.. iam also fighting with him and couldn’t control my anger..
     
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    I started attending interviews and trying for job.. these days i started spending time for me.. I want him to shut his mouth and sit for some time
     
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    Iam gathering all safety information from IL.. if I think I can’t handle this.. then I’ll take next step
     
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    In general he is ok towards me and loving towards child.. but when we argue it leads to awkward scenarios like he starts using bad words and I become furious.. he also complaints and last time he hit me on my hand and I hit him back.. this is the first time such thing happened and my kid saw that.. I don’t want such things to happen again and don’t want the kid to suffer.. any one of us should keep calm but I decided not to be calm
     
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    Because I was calm all these days now I will not..
     
  7. Amulet

    Amulet IL Hall of Fame

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    Learn how to fight with husband. Fighting to ruin your marriage is a good thing if you want to ruin your marriage. Remember what your goal in marriage is, and fight to win that goal. Fighting to lose is never a good idea.
     
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    “Fighting to ruin your marriage is a good thing if you want to ruin your marriage”

    I like this
     
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    If he and you hit for first time. talk it out and make a rule that no hitting from both sides. If you dont stop this now it will go on and on
     
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    Communication. That’s the only way. When you both are in a calm mood, tell him to list out the things he likes and dislikes about you and you do the same. Talk about what both of you can do to correct the factors that the other doesn’t like. Let him know that it is embarrassing to be fighting and physically hitting each other especially before kid and that you both are better than this.
    Make it a 2 way conversation starting with the assumption that both of you have made mistakes.
    You said it’s a love marriage and you have been married for 8 years. May be both of you are not putting enough efforts into the marriage anymore and have become complacent. Both of your health issues will also add to this. See what you can do to help nurse yourself into a better health.
     

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