Abnormal husband, abusive marriage. cant handle situation.

Seriously? You want to have a baby with an abusing man? That too a gay man?
You have a right to destroy your life but what right do you have to destroy the life of a little child.

Don't be selfish.Don't look for a helpless child to help you in life.You are an adult and deal with your life yourself.

What positive do you see in this relationship that you want to hold on to it?
Do you have a job?
What about family support?

No ,you can make a gay man straight. There are bisexual people out there but that just means you are cheating yourself.It is sad that this man chose you to shield his homosexuality.He is a coward....but why are you being a coward? You tell your family about this and take their support.Take a divorce ...and make him pay for the last four years of use and abuse.

 

You want a child with this man?? But why? Just give us one good reason why you want to bring a child to this world with such an arrogant man?

 

dont go for a child now .. have a good relation .. ask his plans and his wishes .. have a good talk then decide what he needs ..

 

I just don't understand why would anyone marry someone and treat them like a doormat!. Obviously he's not interested in women and marriage so why marry in the first place?

And Supriya, I honestly think, you shouldn't be pining for his affection. You are non existent to him. Only God knows what he is doing in Saudi since he's inclined towards man. I think he need to protect his identity so he is using you for that purpose.

Talk to him. Tell him you know about his preference. You should have confronted him long ago. Give him the ultimatum. Its sad that you are wasting away you life for this man.

Please don't even think about getting pregnant with this guy. He is not being responsible for his wife and what makes you think he's going to be responsible father? A child needs a stable life and both the parents should be present in his/her life throughout the growing years. Importantly why have a child with a man who don't love you?

 

Are you sure, he is a gay ? The fact that he has not shown any interest in you, since the beginning itself can not be the only evidence to conclude his orientation as gay.

Gay men display many signals, which are too obvious to miss. A gay man will be unusually close to another man, whom he will claim a friend, but spend his all available time with him. You can easily sense his emotional connection to other men.

There will be frequent tell-tale evidences of his being a gay. Mind it, gay men are as sexually active as heterosexual men. Hence, this 'activity' will be visible.

do you see other evidences of him being a gay ?

If you are sure, he is a gay, then, there is absolutely no point in you expecting him to change. A gay man will never change, because it is not his willing choice to remain so.

It is something Nature has imposed on him, on which he has no control over.

Two things I emphasise are :

1) Be sure , he is a gay

2) Once you are sure , he is gay, please be informed in the right way, he is permanently a gay man, no effort by you or any other woman is going to change his orientation or likes /dislikes. Your hopes of change will end up only in a futile wait.