A treatment for my cold husband

Hi friends,
Hmmmm… I was in a very bad mood this morning and wanted to talk to someone to vent out my emotions. I called my hubby, and as usual he said he is very busy :bonk
I am in a dilemma; I really don’t know how to change my man.
My husband is always like this. He is not capable of multi tasking. Like, if he is very busy at the office, no matter what, he cannot call me or involve in any discussions. Unlike me, he is always busy…. I really don’t understand why he alone busy always, while everybody has their leisure time to spend with their loved ones at least after office hours.
I am not a stupid… I too work for the same organization and in a higher position than my hubby (in diff country). But I really don’t understand what this busy means to him?:spin
I wouldn’t say he is changed after marriage. He used to be the same before, but I was 100% ok with his lack of expression and communicational problems while dating/courtship time.
If he doesn’t call me, I pick up the phone and call him. If he doesn’t respond my calls, I just leave him a message and wait until he comes back. I had very minimal expectations from him.
But all of a sudden, I became an emotional idiot after marriage, and longing for his emotional supports all the time.:crazy
I had a couple of good friends with whom I can share everything… My mom and sister were also very cool with me, but after marriage I have detached myself from all these external parties and became a total dependant of my husband.:bonk
To add oil to my fire, I had to come to Sudan, where I stay alone and become so depressed when things aren’t moving favorably.
I know if I give him a silent treatment for 2 days, he will come back and call me for the next couple of weeks. But again, I have to sing the same lonely song, as he will take me for granted.
I am going back to India in a couple of days…. I really want to give him a nice treatment to make him understand my emotional needs.
Please pen down your suggestions and experiences!

 

Many thanks Kma, and Sri Vidya for your valuable responses.

Yes... I understand that marriage changes some equations as per men's dictionary.
What to do? We have no option, but to marry a man:bonk

Sri Vidya,

I tried giving this cold silent treatment a couple of times before. I pretended as if there is nothing wrong, and limitted my conversation only to Hi -How are you - Bye level for a couple of days. He coudn't even wait for 2 full days like that, so he used to come back with a long and lovely conversation.
Last night was also the same.. I felt so bad after his cold treatment last morning, so I stopped talking to him, no mails afterwards but told him that I have a news to share with.
He just waited until 7.30pm Sudanese time (my useual call time is between 4.30 - 5.30pm) and then called me back.

I really hate this... I am married to this person to share all my emotions with him... I never told busy or something like that when he needed my emotional support for him, rather I always made my self available for him despite of my tight work schedules here.

I know, if I give him a cold treatment, he will surely come back for a few days... But how long do I repeat this? Afterall, he is not there for me when I really need his support.

I don't want to go back to my friends and parents for my emotional needs. If that's the case, then what is the point of our marriage?

I really want to teach him a lesson, that he needs to understand the important of emotional supports in a marriage.

He is nice otherwise, but I understand it takes time for a person to change.. It is all because of the negative upbringing, as I know none of his siblings call their parents nor inform anything about their daily activities. They don't love their parents, but fear if they don't do certain things their parents will curse them:bonk