I know that nobody is perfect. I also have issues with many things and lack in many things. If parents do mistakes, is it ok to blame them? If their mistakes have created a huge impact on your life, can you forgive them? These are the questions my mind will be always thinking of. I have three sisters (we are four sisters), all are married. My parents are very nice people, they have always helped others. My father has three sisters, for one or the reasons, he had to support his sisters financially. Ours was a crowded house, always filled with guests (cousins, aunts and uncles) and many of my cousins stayed at our place to complete their studies. Financially we never had any problems, but we (including my mother) never got the things what we wanted in life because my father had to take care of others also. Today, I am qualified and have a master’s degree, my sisters have bachelor’s degree. I can say that education wise we sisters have done very well. Now I am starting my actual story ----As my father had responsibility of my other cousins we never went to good schools. My sisters studied in government schools and l fought with my parents and went to a private school. I used my and my sisters’ piggybank money to pay the donation, my father wasn’t worried about anything. He didn’t even know exactly to which schools we were going. I came first rank in tenth class, during award function my father was sleeping at home (He never showed interest in our activities and achievements). My sister used to borrow books from library when our cousins used to purchase their own books. These small things never bothered me when I was in school. After I moved to another city to work and saw other girls and their parents and their relationship, I started to think “Are we neglected by our parents? Do we deserve this life? Why our parents are not like others? Why my mother is silent, she could have raised her voice for us (My father is a nice person, he is not violent)”. I feel both parents are responsible for the upbringing of their kids. My mom never said anything to my father, instead she asked us not to worry about it. Sometimes we need a strong emotional support from our family which I never received. Whatever be the situation, happy or sad one, I always get same dry responses. We were never praised by our parents, when I see someone praising their kids, I feel so bad for myself. I know they care about us, but still sometimes you have to speak-up and show your love openly. These thought have made a strong house in mind now. Now, I am married and settled in a foreign country. I spend sleepless nights thinking about my childhood. I started getting headaches when I was in high-school. My parents were so careless that they never provided me proper treatment. In-fact, it was never diagnosed, and today I have daily persistent headaches. Till today they don’t know the severity of my pain. Do you think parents will be so ignorant and careless that they don’t even come to know the health condition of their kids? Sometimes when I get severe headaches, I simply cry and blame them for ignoring my health. I have never expressed these feelings to anyone, including my husband. Today, I am 15 weeks pregnant, when I asked them to come here to help me, they are giving excuses. After I forced them, they applied for passport, and to my luck they got their passports with full of mistakes. I should say it’s my parents’ mistake. My father was never worried about what details are given in our schools, my mother is a graduate and she also never paid attention to this. Because of their negligence and carelessness nature, today my father’s and my last names don’t match (Spelling differences). Now everyone at my home are telling me not to blame my parents for the mistakes in their passports, it is the mistake of Govt ppl. Now they don’t have time to get it corrected. I know the situation in India, spelling mistakes are common. That is the reason, since past five years I was telling them to apply for a passport, so they get ample of time to do the corrections (If required). I am really frustrated about their ignorance. My father didn’t come with me when I purchased my first bi-cycle and scooter. I took my neighbors to the shop, my father’s duty was just to give money to me. I don’t know what colors he likes, he never bought us a single piece of cloth. It was my mother who used to do shopping for us. If I ask what’s my favorite food or color, I am pretty much sure that both my parents won’t be able to answer this question. My parents never attended any parents meetings held in our schools. We sisters always went alone during school/college admissions. In other sense this has made us strong and independent, but somewhere in your heart you will be expecting your parents to accompany you. Girls will be always closer to their mothers, it is a mother's responsibility to give some suggestions and instructions during or before marriage, during college days etc. Our mother never spoke openly with us, I used to wonder when my friends used to tell me how much open they are with their mothers. My mom calls me once in a week, my father won’t care at all. Till today he never called me to enquire my health, if there is anything related to bank or some other work, then only he will talk to me. I need some emotional support during my pregnancy, that is the reason I was asking my parents to come to my house. I feel lonely, I don’t get sleep. I go to another room and cry so that my husband doesn’t come to know. Now it is 2:52am in the morning. Today, I couldn’t control myself, as usual I thought it is better to write down my emotions. Do you guys think that it is right to blame my aged parents? What was our mistake that we sisters got such a life? Don’t we deserve parents’ love? Why my parents are irresponsible and act immature. Should I blame god for this? I become jealous when I see others, don’t have go too far, when I see my husband and his parents, I feel jealous and curse my fate. I always pretend to others that I have a perfect family and simply praise my father and mother. I always have to cover for them infront of my in-laws. They don't speak properly with my in-laws, always try to avoid meet them. My in laws are very nice people, they used call my parents to greet on every festival, but my parents never showed any interest to maintain the good relationship. Whenever they call they don't even ask about my husband and never speak to him. If my husband calls, they will speak one or two words. I am not blaming them, I think they are introverts and try to avoid people. We often hear stories of children neglecting their parents, but my story is quite opposite it this. I know every person is different and their way of showing love and concern will be different. Every morning I start my day with a new hope and try to forget what happened last night. I don’t know, in future what my kid would say to me, so at this point I feel it is better not to think too much. I should control my emotions and try concentrating on my child, and try not to hear same words from kid in future.