A quick guide to Parents-in-law (Girl's parents)

In continuition to the first thread on 'quick guide to Parents-in-law"......

For the Girl’s Parents:-

• Never feel yourself inferior to boy’s parents. You are equal counterparts. Gone are those days. Instead of keeping a distance and acting overcourteous try to act as a counterpart and carry out your responsibility.

• If you find boy’s side very demanding, think whether your daughter will be happy living with them. Because in India the tradition demands various things in cash / kind / rituals, on various occasions. Only when you are confident of meeting those requirements in future, you proceed otherwise think that your deserves a better life & continue your search.

• Commit only things that are within your capacity. Taking loans and ruining your future will never make your daughter happy in her house, as she will be worrying about you.

• If the Boy’s parents tell you not to spend money unnecessarily on certain things / rituals in marriage (hardly few think that way!), but still you want to spend money you have alloted for her marriage better make an FD in your daughter’s name which will benefit her.

• Make your daughter realize the responsibility she is going to take, how she should live in her new environment, how to tackle people, situations etc. - a basic knowledge. She will learn and get moulded later through her experience. Never make her feel inferior to anyone. Impart the virtue of patience in her at the same time not to become a fool by tolerating whatever comes in her path.

• Give her necessary support wherever required. Never interfere in her family matters unnecessarily. You as a parent should act more maturedly and responsibly in case she complains about her in-laws or about her husband. Hear her and diplomatically make her understand on how to handle situations. Because when she is tensed and impatient she only expects ears to hear her. If she doesn’t find people with that qaulity in her home then only she comes to talk to you about it.

• Like how you respect the privacy of your daughter & your son-in-law, the same way your son and DIL deserves it too.

• Any advice you give your girl, never make it blindly / emotionally but wisely. Ensure that it is understood by her in right way. Let your wisdom and experience brighten her life.

• Carry yourself well and also let your daughter do that in her new family.

Happy Parent-in-lawhood



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Dear ILs, I have touched only few basic things here. You are welcome to add in points from your personal experience